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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 100 men, 5 women
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Getting Spanked

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I started exchanging emails with a guy on a gay-fetish-related website. He’s into spanking and I was never really spanked hard but wanted to try it. We tried to hook up once or twice but circumstances prevented it. He was a few years older than me, white, married (he never said but he couldn’t meet at his place and could meet only on one day of the week in the AM, so I assumed).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One morning, a month or two after our last email, I logged on in the morning and he was also online. He sent me an email asking if I still wanted to get spanked and I said yes, and he said he happened to be free right then, even though it wasn’t the day he’s usually free. I work nights so I was about to go to bed but I said if he could get to my place soon we’d have half an hour or so. He drove to my place and came through the gate into the apartment building parking lot. I came down and led him upstairs. This is one of my favorite things about anonymous hookups, when you’re walking to somewhere, knowing what you’re going to do. I imagined he was staring at my ass as I led him up the stairs.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we were inside my apartment I could tell he really wanted to start because he forgot to give me the briefs. He wanted me to wear briefs while he did it but I don’t own any so he brought some. I asked him for them and went into the bathroom to change. I came out wearing only the briefs. He started fondling my ass and then whacking it with his hand while I stood upright. Then he bent me over the bed and spanked me some more. Then he started flogging me with a little rubber strap which hurt more than his hand. He took off his pants and position himself near my head, shoving his pretty big cock into my mouth while he flogged my ass more with the strap. He called me bitch, faggot, cocksucker (we’d previously discussed how we liked verbal abuse, him to give it and me to take it). It started to hurt a lot. I wanted to take as much as I could to please him but it was starting to hurt too much. He would take little breaks for me to recover and suck his cock. Then he flipped me on my back and starting flogging my balls through the briefs. Then he pulled the briefs down and flogged my balls more with the strap. That hurt a lot too but I was being dominated which was what I wanted. At one point he held me down with his knee on my chest. He made me beg for his cum. Finally, he shot his cum over my face.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Then he got dressed and left. Most guys wait around to watch me jack off but he left right away, which is degrading which I like. I jacked off afterward.

I’ve thought about it a lot since then. On one hand, I liked being dominated and used. He had no interested in sucking me or jacking me off or anything, so it was just about me submitting to him. I like how he was essentially just beating me but I still served him sexually. It really underlined the difference between a real man (him) and a cocksucker (me). I really wanted to take as much as I could to please him and when I sucked him I tried to do an extra-good job.

On the other hand, it hurt quite a lot. I guess I’m less into actual pain than the humiliation and degradation aspects of it. I fantasize about being used like that on, say, a weekly basis but I did have bruises that hurt for a couple days so I’m not sure I want to do that again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I liked being with someone who just wanted to use me and how he enjoyed hurting me and was sexually aroused by it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It hurt.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.

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