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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? I was 23 when this happened.
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, Or.
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Journalism
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50-ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Girl From the Party Next Door

How long ago did this hookup happen? Many years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a petite college student with long dark brown hair and dark brown eyes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was living in the house I’d lived in off-campus during my last year of college, with two young roommates who were still in school. It was a Thursday night and I had to work in the morning so I was in my room with the door closed, listening to music and, I’ll never forget, flossing my teeth. I had every intention of going to bed early, and was feeling a little annoyed at the mid-week party so close by, and I wasn’t all that happy when someone knocked on my door. When I swung it open I saw a woman I’d never met, looking a little drunk and holding a lollipop. She wanted to know if my housemate was around, and I had no idea so suggested she go back next door and look for him there. She asked if she could come in instead, and not wanting to be rude I said okay. She promptly sat on my bed, and when I pulled up my desk chair I could smell liquor on her breath, along with tobacco and the lollipop which was grape. We chatted for a short while, and she asked if I wanted to taste her lollipop. I said no thanks, but then it occurred to me that she wasn’t just saying hello; she had larger plans. I was a young guy, and single, and hadn’t gotten laid for a while, so of course my cock started to twitch. But what about my early evening? Ten minutes earlier I was about to go to sleep. Was I really going…..she asked me again if I wanted to taste her lollipop and this time I said sure, and went to sit next to her. She put it in my mouth, let me lick it, then took it out and kissed me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were kissing intensely within moments, and I put my hand on her thigh, which led to her putting her hand on my crotch. Locating my rapidly hardening cock she squeezed it and pushed me back onto the bed so she could straddle me. We kissed and dry-humped for a little, then she climbed off and unzipped me, pulling my pants down to my knees so she could stroke me, then lean down to start sucking me. I took her shirt and bra off next, and then pulled off her pants, finding her very wet and ready. I went down on her for a little, but she wriggled onto the bed and opened her legs so I could start fucking her. Soon we were thrusting and gasping and I’m pretty sure I came soon after, and maybe she did too…I don’t remember. We lay there for a while together, but she hitched her thigh over my cock and when I got hard again, which didn’t take long, she climbed on top of me and began riding my cock with increasing speed and intensity. She gasped “What are you DOING to me?” to which I said, “Fucking you as hard as I can!” At one point I looked down to watch, and saw her bouncing so high she momentarily cleared the head of my cock, only to fall back perfectly centered so she landed with the head as deep into her pussy as possible. I think we both came soon after that.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She gave me her number and we began an on-again/off-again relationship that continued for several months. I liked her a lot, and thought she was extremely hot, but I wasn’t in a place where I could feel comfortable having a serious relationship with a woman, so we made each other unhappy at times. I’d avoid her for a while, but then she’d call or come by, or I’d call her to go out for a drink, and we’d end up fucking again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few guy friends. Most thought it was the most awesome thing they’d heard in a while.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How unexpected it was; how quickly it happened; how she seduced me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It led to an awkward relationship that I wasn’t prepared for, and I ended up hurting her feelings.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not especially.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I hadn’t seen her in a long time but found her email address somewhere and sent her a note. We got together for beers the next afternoon. Many years have passed; now we’re both married to other people. I have kids and have been settled down for a long time. But It turned out we live very close together, and she confessed that she’d seen me run by her house several times over the years. For some reason I found that to be exciting in a more than vaguely sexual way. I realized there’s still a spark between us, all these years later. When we said goodbye I gave her a little peck and pulled away just as I suspected that her return kiss seemed to be something more than a peck. Maybe I’m kidding myself there.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t do it anymore, haven’t in a long time. But I still value my memories of my single days, which included a lot of one-night stands and short, sex-centric relationships. Sex with my wife is still great, but not as often as I’d like and I fantasize about having a fuck buddy or some kind of very casual sex partner. I guess a lot of married guys feel the same way. But I really don’t want to get divorced, so I don’t.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting. Just discovered it the other day and have read a bunch of the other submissions. They are fascinating and titillating at the same time. What’s not to love?

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