What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Atlanta
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Attorney
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 63
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2007
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She looked exactly like Kirsten Dunst. I was 37, she was 23. She was blonde, 5’7″, 110 pounds, very slim and sexy. Gorgeous girl. I met her at a strip club. She was married and had a toddler. We took an instant liking to each other and I started seeing her weekly at the club. After a few months, I gave her my card and asked her to call me. I was smitten by her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She called me at work one day. We set up a date. I took her on a tour of the city, we had coffee, I showed her my law office. We had an amazing connection outside of the club, a truly lovely time and we agreed to go on a second date.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On our second date, I took her to a hotel. She looked so incredibly sexy. We got high and started to kiss. I started unbuttoning her top, removed her clothes, we explored each other’s bodies, she gave me a very long blowjob, I went down on her and gave her multiple orgasms, then we fucked for a very long time.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kept seeing each other for another two years. I fell madly in love with her and she eventually broke my heart.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. He was happy for me but told me I was playing with fire.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with Kirsten Dunst’s double.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She broke my heart two years later.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, this started me on a long journey of having sex with married women.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Don’t fall in love with a married 23 year old stripper.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Love casual sex, recreational sex is one of the most fun things I’ve ever done.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great!
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