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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourne
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Haven’t decided
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? open-ended
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
It’s Going Down, I’m yelling Tinderrrrrr
How long ago did this hookup happen? About a year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, dark and relatively handsome. Did not know him well at all. Hadn’t hooked prior. I felt attraction towards to him before the hookup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both swiped right and began with the usual small talk/pleasantries, from what I could gather he seemed like a cool guy, pretty chilled and had good banter. I had never actually met up with anyone from Tinder and there were no real plans to meet until I instigated it after a night out, I was drunk and my roommates were away so I thought I would make the most of it. In a drunken haze I gave the stranger my number. He called and then drove around and brought more alcohol along with him! Which was great in theory, except for the fact I was already quite intoxicated. We got along exceptionally well straight away, we listened to music and bonded over it, talked about our friends and families and even had a dance towards the end of the night. And then I passed out in my bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal penetration, fingering and a couple of sexual positions but all of that comes later… After a rather anticlimactic night I woke to find this guy sleeping on the floor next to my bed. I was still fully clothed, as was he, suggesting that the ‘hookup’ hadn’t occurred yet. I woke him up and we chatted for a bit but I was suffering from the mother of all hangovers and was not in the best of moods. He had to move his car to avoid a fine so I gave him the keys to be able to re-enter the castle and he left for about 15 mins. He re-entered bringing with him one the best croissants of my life! It was an instant mood lifter. After eating that crescent shaped ball of deliciousness we began to watch a movie, no idea what it was but it can’t have been very riveting because he began to feel up and down my body. I was lying on my side and rolled onto my back allowing him to explore me further. His hand found it’s way into my pants and eventually down to my clit and vaginal opening, which he began to finger. After a few minutes of this I decided to get in on this action by stroking the outline of his manhood (it was at this point I realised he wasn’t very well endowed, but being the progressive and open-minded human that I am, I continued) until he became hard and very much ready. The romance then died for about two minutes as Mr Responsible put’s on a condom (I didn’t even have to ask, what a gentleman) and he entered me from the missionary position; slowly and gently at first then speeding up to a steady pace later on. After what feels like a lifetime of thrusting and some unexpected kissing from him I decided to turn myself over on to all fours in order to 1. Stops him from kissing me, and 2. Allow him to enter me from behind because I remembered reading somewhere that it’s a much better position for guys with smaller penises. I think it helped him because he came not long after. After tying up the condom he was straight back into it, this time going down on me orally which was nice, however I just couldn’t seem to climax, Just as I was beginning to come close he stopped due to fatigue (fair enough) but I think it bruised he’s ego (bless him) because he apologised and mumbled something about needing to build up his bedroom stamina. I told him I was close but just couldn’t seem to get there, he asked if anyone else had made me come orally and I wasn’t about to lie to spare this guy’s feelings; the answer I told him, was yes. We had sex once more, this time with me on top but nothing was working in my favour on this day, he came once more and then I accepted defeat and suggested that we watch a better movie.
Was he a good lover? He meant well and tried hard but there just wasn’t enough technique or length…unfortunately for me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We watched a better movie, chatted a bit more and then he asked If I had a hair dryer to fix he’s hair because it wasn’t sitting right. It was at that point alarm bells instantly started ringing in my head suggesting that it was time for him to leave. No hope for the future, the hair dryer question and the lack of orgasming on my behalf made sure of that. I feel a bit indifferent to him now.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my roommate’s about it once they came home and we all had a bit of a laugh.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The pre-coitis croissant which he bought for me. It was so tasty.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I went to write “he’s underwhelming penis size,” but it wasn’t even that. It was more the fact that he had two orgasms and I had zilch.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A bit actually. While i’m glad I had the Tinder experience but after that episode I think i’ll leave it at just that one experience.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? 6/10
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve only really ever done casual sex. It’s all I know and it works for me. I have needs but I also have no desire to be in a relationship in this stage of my life. I have things I want to accomplish and from what I can see when I look at my friends and family in relationships, is that they are consumed (for lack of a better word) by them. I’ve also never met anyone that’s made the potential of a long term relationship look alluring. I think casual sex has a lot more prevalent role in today’s society since marriage and the idea of monogamy, is no longer ‘the be all, end all.’ I would like to see the stigma surrounding ‘casual sex’ challenged. I’ve had (give or take) about 15 sexual partners and at 22 years of age, if we are going by society’s definition; that number suggest’s that I am a slut. However I haven’t once gotten pregnant or contracted an STD/STI proving that casual sex is in no way damaging to my health and/or wellbeing.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great initiative. And good a read.
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