What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Botswana
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Unemployed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Going In Deeper And Deeper.
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was my on and off boyfriend for many years but we were never physical and it was a long distance relationship. I met him 4 years prior to us getting together. He was so handsome and good looking and he was walking with his cousin and that cousin was my friend so I told the cousin that I like him and that’s how we got together.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We got into a serious relationship when I moved closer to where he was staying and so I regularly went to visit him. But he wasn’t staying alone and so we had to have a schedule of when to see each other. He always asked me to come to his place if his roommates were not around.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
Before I got to sleep with him I had already slept with someone else and he thought I was still a virgin and so when I broke the news to him he was disappointed. But he said it was fine it didn’t really bother him that i gave myv- card to someone else. We had been sexting each other and planning to have sex for a few weeks and so the day had arrived to go get the dick. I once caressed his dick this one time and it was very big and I told him that his dick was very big and that it wasn’t gonna fit I was nervous as hell. He then said no don’t worry I won’t hurt you I’ll take it slow and I believed him because I loved him. And so I woke up very early and went to his place and when I got there, he was waiting for me at the gate and I was so excited and nervous at the same time because all I was thinking about was his BIG dick.
So we went to the house and went straight to the bedroom and took off all of our clothes and we didn’t do any foreplay because we were very nervous. He pushed me to the bed and then he got on top of me and then he put his big DICK inside my tight pussy . It was so painful. This dick was very BIG he kept thrusting in and out and I was moaning with pain through out all those rounds. He came after about 7 minutes and we had three rounds. But I was bleeding and he asked if I was a virgin or not and I told him that I was not one. I had had sex with my previous boyfriend yet I didn’t bleed. So I told him that he must have the been the one who ripped my hymen apart. After we done he asked how the sex was for me and I told him that it was very painful for me and he said he’s sorry and should’ve told him because he would have stopped but I couldn’t tell him because I was nervous. He said he sex was wonderful for him because my pussy was tight and small. He walked me out after having sex and I fainted as were leaving. He jokingly said he fucked my brains out and that was why I fainted.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Everyone else was/is doing it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with someone you are emotionally connected to. I even cried tears of joy after we finished the deed.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? That experience taught me about me about my own body and the things ilike sexually.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its a good platform for all those who are
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