What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Unemployed
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventurous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ll call him “Brock”. Brock wasn’t my usual type and I think that’s why we had so much fun together. I was on a trip with a bunch of girlfriends to celebrate graduating from college, Brock was on vacation for a bachelor party and we met at a popular bar in the city we were both vacationing in.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Brock caught my attention at the bar because he was walking around with a blow-up sex doll on his shoulders so to break the ice I started asking him about “her”. Brock was absolutely the life of the party and we spent the night chatting with other patrons.
Eventually, he pulled me inside the bar (we had been on a patio the whole night) and Brock pushed me up against the wall. We immediately started making out, although at first, I was very uncomfortable because I frown upon PDA. Brock definitely instigated it and eventually suggested that we go back to his hotel room. The plan from there was to just inform my friends that I wouldn’t be going back to our room. A friend of mine got Brock’s information in her phone just in case they needed to track me down and then we were off to his room together.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we walked into the room, it was clear we were both a little nervous. We began to undress and being that I am extremely busty, Brock massaged my breasts and then asked me to take a shower with him. Though I’m not a huge fan of shower sex, I said yes as Brock was incredibly dominating and I wanted to please him. In the shower, we washed one another and I performed oral on him. After almost 10 minutes, we hopped out of the shower and got into bed together. From there, we spent the entire night fucking and performing oral with just little breaks until we were ready for the next round. Brock was the best fuck I ever had and I really don’t think anyone will be able to outperform him in my eyes. He expertly stroked me and utilized his warm-up drills from his background as an actor to give me multiple orgasms.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought I was in love when we woke up the next day. I had no expectations but many hopes for a future together and to this day we are still friends. Truthfully I will always hope for a future with Brock. The next day I was absolutely elated and was devastated when I had to return to my hotel. We exchanged numbers and kept in touch for weeks afterward and even engaged in some FaceTime sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told all of my close friends about Brock. They wish that we could have worked out too.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Brock was extremely talented and desired to please me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it had to end and being that we literally fucked all night I was exhausted the next day on our excursion.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all. Talking about it has made me miss sex, however. I’m in a bit of a dry spell right now.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? N/A
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have only ever been in two relationships so casual sex has been really the only sex I engage in. I wish women were not so stigmatized for wanting sex and that we could have clearer channels of communication about casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it! It’s comforting knowing we’re all stuck in this bizarre dating world together.
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