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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Indonesia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? banker
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Great Tinder Hookups Do Exist

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met this guy on Tinder, he was 6 years older than me. From the very beginning, he was very straightforward about his intentions and I played along because he was kind of cute. Cute enough for me to think that he used fake photos. He was tall and chubby. We texted several days before actually meet up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I told him specifically that I didn’t do it at a dodgy hotel. We finally agreed on a hotel and we met there. I was so relieved that he was the same guy as his Tinder profile. I, of course, was very nervous and insecure about myself. I hadn’t had sex for more than 6 months. He touched me a little when we were walking to our room and I twitched. I was THAT nervous.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat on the bed and we started kissing and very quickly we undressed each other. He said that I was a good kisser. He’s very active and communicative throughout the foreplay. He lifted my legs and gave me a nice long oral and I moaned so loud I had to cover my face with a pillow, but it only turned him on more. He fingered me roughly until it hurt a bit I literally had to beg him to stop. He’s started to put his penis inside me and as he started thrusting, it made a loud, sloppy noise which only made him go harder. He came all over my chest and wiped it with a towel. We cuddled, had a deep conversation, he asked me many personal questions that I was happy to answer. We kissed and touched each other’s faces and the physical contact was so intense, he ended up fingering me roughly again.

When we finished and were about to part ways, he told me to keep in touch and I gave him a light kiss on his cheek.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It’s been 24 hours but none of us has texted each other. The next day I felt great and replayed some scenes in my head. I’m worried I might catch feelings.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A guy friend. He had several questions but he made sure that I did not feel down about this.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The cuddling.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t get an orgasm, but it’s okay.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Last time I did this with a Tinder guy, it ended up pretty badly, I felt used and I almost cried on my way back in an Uber. I was in a bad situation and had hoped that sex could cheer me up but it only made my situation worse. This time, I was more prepared and knew what to expect and able to control my feelings better.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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