by Mr.grumpy charming smile
Gender: Female
Age: 23

Race/ethnicity: Hispanic
Location: North Carolina
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Unemployed
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? straight
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


Grumpy Marine

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Confused sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Charming guy with a great smile, over 6″ tall, strong arms, the kind of guy you see with the pretty girly girls. We meet at a Starbucks and it was rather weird. We were both nervous. He was nervous too, but he wasn’t shaking as I was.
I honestly felt he was out of my league,  yet I wanted to see where things went from there on.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Don’t know who instigated it, but that first date I hinted at him to kiss me. He said I was the best kiss he’d ever had. After a couple of dates (3) I went to his place to watch movies and eat some Chinese. He kept kissing me and caressing my back, until all of the sudden I turned off the TV and made out with him. Next thing I know he stands up, holds me up, and the rest is history.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was my first time. I thought I knew what I was doing, but I wasn’t. He went down on me, and it was an interesting experience. He did most of the work. He was rough and he handled me the whole time. He did ask me to give him a blow job and I said no. I was afraid of not knowing what to do with it. I orgasmed a couple of times (or so I think). It went on for hours. 7 hours. During “break times” we talked about him, his life, and he said I was weird, very shy and quiet (I never told him I had never had sex before). It was about midnight when I had to go. He helped me get dressed. Once I was dressed I joked and told him I was underage. He laughed but checked my purse for my ID. We kissed and kissed a lot more and then I told him I had to go. He took me to my car, kissed me and hugged me. That was the last time I ever saw him .

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I asked him to wear a condom but he didn’t. He pulled out every time. We never even discussed previous sexual history.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was in a high of affection. He used to text me and say nice things. I thought he was being serious and wanted me for more than just a one nightstand.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No and no.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He dodged me and avoided me for weeks, yet he kept texting me and making plans. After a while of him making excuses for not seeing each other, I asked him what he wanted from me and why was he still talking to me. He said he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship.
I felt like an idiot because I had just lost my virginity to a guy I had seen 4 times. I felt low about myself.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I feel ashamed of it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual. We knew what we were doing.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yessss. Because I regret just throwing my virginity to the first guy who ever said I was beautiful. I should’ve waited.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me realize I’m not ready to have random sex with guys. I want to actually experience what passion and love feels like.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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