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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? United Kingdom
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? PR
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 20 (possibly a woman’s 20, possibly not)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Gushing In A Club

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew H quite well – we’d worked together on a few projects over the years. She’s slim, brunette, with a slight alternative dress style, multiple piercings, and the most beautiful full lips and piercing blue eyes. We’d always gotten on well, gentle mocking and flirting were just our default interactions. We’d never hooked up, but we’d had a drunken kiss at Christmas – I’d ask her if her lip piercing affected her kissing…

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After successfully signing a client together we decided to go for a few drinks. I’m not really much of a drinker, but I thought, fuck it, why not. When H suggested a local rock night later, I again thought, fuck it. We kissed in the taxi there, but I thought she was just being friendly!

Yep; sometimes I need a fanfare to realize someone is interested in fucking me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were kissing and then she followed me into the toilet in the club – so classy, I know.

As we were kissing in a cubicle I decided to run my hands up her fishnet tights. She wasn’t wearing any knickers and was incredibly slick. I (kind of awkwardly to be honest!) crouched down and began to lick her puffy lips and part them. She started thrusting on my tongue, almost attempting to ride it so I decided to gently lick and nibble her clit. When I sucked her clit she squealed, grabbed my head and moved her mound up and down my face until she was finished gushing.

She was fantastic – she tasted great, had fantastic lips to tongue, and the sounds she made, made me clench.

It ended because I was getting a bit sore and toilets only give me massive wide ons for about five minutes or so.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we did some awful dance moves to great emo music, kissed a fuck load more, ate cheesy chips and gravy, and then got in separate taxis.

I felt great about it the next day. I was walking with a proper cocksure swagger, half expecting people to exclaim “That woman tongue fucked another. High five to you!”

No expectations, I just hoped I’d see her again. Sex is always better the more you do it.

H is bloody awesome. She was then and is now. I’m hoping to see her again in the next few months.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my partner when I got back, and he had the almost standard male response to it. We fucked and each time we kissed he could taste her on my lips and would have to fight the urge to cum.

My friend found it hilarious and later told me she wanked to it.

I’d say they were quite positive reactions.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? H. How fun and open-minded she was, and how easily I made her orgasm.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Absolutely nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I’ve always considered myself quite open-minded sexually and had sexual interactions with women long before I had them with men. I did feel a slight ego boost; it’s always really hot when those you fancy also fancy you.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve been a swinger for quite some time now, around 7 years or so so I’d say casual sex (umbrella term here) has played quite a role in my life. I find it a brilliant outlet, an exciting ego boost, and a good release from the general mundanity of day to life.

I’d like to see women able to discuss more freely casual sex without the stigmatization surrounding it. And less of the separation of feelings around casual sex. More people should try it as well, the available pool is slowly shrinking for me.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really fascinating. I’ve recommended it to one friend to read already. Obviously, some stories are to be read with a pinch of salt, but the authentic ones are really erotic and such an insight.

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