What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Guys fake orgasms too?
How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was really hot, tall and muscular but lean. He had amazing eyes and cheekbones too. Didn’t know him well at all, literally just chatted to decide on a time and place to meet. We met on tinder, and I was surprised that someone so good looking would be interested to meet. Was a little reluctant at first cause I’m not generally comfortable letting people into my place (only available option) and we wouldn’t have met for drinks/coffee before that. I was extremely nervous because he was a lot more physically attractive than I am, and had obviously done hookups before.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He just took a cab to my area and I went down to meet him, not much planning he wanted it to happen quite urgently, the day after he messaged. I’d asked him twice what he likes in bed, and he said anything and everything, because he gets turned on easy. When he found his bearings and we met along the road I walked him up to my room and we had the usual small talk (how was your day etc); the only planning involved was finding a suitable place and me making sure he’d bring a condom, and had been checked for STIs previously. When he came into my room he was asking questions about stuff on the walls etc which wasn’t rude or intrusive, but I was surprised he actually paid attention, I was under the impression he was just gonna fuck and chuck instead of seeing me as a person with a life.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He lay down on the bed (single bed) and seeing no other space I just straddled him. We started kissing, then I unbuckled his belt/jeans. I think I was a bit eager but we got our clothes off pretty soon after I gave him some head. He was only semi-hard but got fully hard pretty soon. He then pulled on the condom and flipped me on my back, and put a finger (or multiple fingers) inside me. I’d been dry for a while so it really hurt because I’m generally quite tight. I had to tell him to ease up for a bit when he put his cock in. The pain normally goes away after a while but he didn’t go slow so it was painful most of the time. we went at it in missionary, while I came once (I think, I’m never really sure) and then doggy. I always have a bit of trouble keeping my hips up in this position so he slid out a few times, accidentally tried to put it up my ass instead of my pussy twice. I came once more and he said he did shortly after, whipped the condom off and lay on the bed. He was still hard so I gave him a bit of head. Didn’t realize at the time it wasn’t normal for him to still be that hard, and didn’t realize I hadn’t tasted any cum. Stopped because my gag reflex was starting to kick in and i didn’t wanna be sick.
we decided to spoon for a bit. He’d been expecting a cab to pick him up (we were at it for about 20 minutes, including foreplay). He wanted to know if he was the best fuck I’d had and how hot I found him. I hesitated a long time and said ‘yes’ (we both knew it wasn’t convincing) and told him not to ask questions if he didn’t really wanna know the answer. We chatted a bit more and I saw him out and he gave me a kiss before heading across the road to wait for his cab.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Texted him that evening to say thanks and that he was great, he replied the next day with the same. Asked if he wanted to hang again two days after (he was only in the area for 4-5 days) but there was no reply. While taking out the trash I realised the condom was totally dry (it had been tied, no fluids at all) and it clicked that he was too hard to have ejaculated, and that I didn’t taste any cum when I went down on him again after the condom was off. Texted him to check, and he didn’t reply either. I think he was hot, but didn’t know how
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a few close friends (also flatmates) about it, and they were very supportive because they knew I’d been dry for about 10 months and needed it. They’re both in relationships so they dont have the same woes
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I haven’t had a very strong sex history, and only ever had one regular partner. I think it hit me harder than I expected when I discovered he faked an orgasm but I didn’t realise at the time.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He looked great, and was clean/smelt nice at least.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Generally low self-esteem taking another hit
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’m not as strong and able to detach emotions from sex as I previously thought I was
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Don’t think I’ll ever be getting anyone as hot as that in bed again
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it has to be less stigmatised, but the ambiguities surrounding every encounter can be quite a high price to pay
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really support it, and I think it’s nice to read about others’ experiences.
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