What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 60
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Sacramento, California
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Physicist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hash House Harrier Hookup in Songkla, Thailand
How long ago did this hookup happen? 27 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? In 1989 when I was 34 I traveled to Thailand from where I was living in Japan working as a physicist at a particle physics laboratory. On the recommendation of the US consul-general in Songkla who I met at the dinner buffet of my hotel, I went to what was described as an ex-pat hangout called the Cheeky Bar. There I found a party going on with the local group of “Hash House Harriers” (see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hash_House_Harriers) following one of their runs, which I learned are mostly an excuse to drink beer. There I met three Thai girls who were part of the HHH group and danced with them. In particular I seemed to hit it off with Prixie, the smallest and cutest one.
She said she was a fashion design student at a local university and went on Hash House runs as a way to improve her English. As drinking went on, we ended up dancing up on the bar with others. Later she was lying on the floor in front of the bar tongue-kissing one of her girlfriends while the third girlfriend for some reason stood and spit beer onto both of them, soaking their clothing. I was astounded by the nonchalance of the other HHH members, mostly British, who ignored this spectacle and continued to chat and sip their beers. So far, I was mostly entertained by what I was experiencing.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? That suddenly changed when, lacking one of her high-heel shoes, Prixie went into a small, one-stall toilet and asked me to bring her her shoe, which I guess had fallen off during the floor-kissing episode. Sitting on the toilet while spraying her crotch with the hose that is typically found next to a toilet in Thailand, she said, “Reeshaa, I want to go home with you tonight.”
We went outside and Prixie and her friends retrieved their scooters. I sat on the back of Prixie’s and directed her to my hotel. She knew the hotel and said she was going to attend something like a wedding reception there in the coming days and did not want to be seen, so after I collected my key, I let her in through a back door.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As Prixie removed her clothes, she wondered why they were wet. I reminded her of the beer-spitting, but I do not think she understood. As I pulled off her panties, she saw that I noticed her Cesarean scar. She said, “That was for the baabee…”
When I started to put on a condom, she told me that she was clean and it was not necessary. I told her, “We do not want any more babies.”
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning we had sex again with my last condom. I ordered her a cappuccino from room service. I was to fly back to Bangkok that day, but she wanted me to stay one more night. I was tempted, but I already had a date scheduled with a Thai woman I had met two weeks earlier in Bangkok, and who would eventually become my wife.
I asked Prixie if I could take her picture, but she said no, adding, “I want to beee only a memoreee…”
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one until this description.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The great memories.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only happened once.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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