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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

He Blew My Mind

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a cage fighter, introduced to me by his aunt whom I worked with. I was not interested in meeting him, but life put us in the same place at the same time and the chemistry was undeniable. He lived in a different city and I had zero interest in having a long distance headache. He had a cage fight in my hometown and went to visit his aunt before he left to go back home after. I was out to lunch but had forgotten some cash at my workstation, so I returned to grab it before I hit the lunch room. On my way to my station I heard my name being called and as I turned around he was sitting on a chair smiling at me, and his aunt was calling me to introduce me to her infamous nephew. He was so fucking hot and confident as he shook my hand and smiled and assured me he had heard a lot about me. Fuck I melted, died, and blacked out for a few seconds. I couldn’t even mutter much other than “I have to go eat,”. I don’t even remember eating my lunch. I was determined to go back and tell his aunt I’d show him around town. Of course, I was too late, he had already gone back home when I got the nerve to face his aunt again.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Weeks passed, but one day I received a friend request from him. We quickly exchanged numbers and not a day went by without texting. We were like twins, we got along so well, and he was HOT. Our texting soon became sexting, phone sex, and pictures. Sooo many nudes! The tension was REAL. We decided to meet up. I set a date to travel to meet him for his birthday in his hometown. The clock ticked and the anticipation grew so much he could not wait and the weekend before I left, he up and left for a night to visit me in my hometown. This was our very first time meeting after we shook hands for the first time, but it was like we had known each other for years.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He booked a fancy hotel and we went out. I wasn’t a big drinker, but he knew how to have a good time. We went bar-hopping and he was so assertive. Anywhere and everywhere he would have me against the walls, kissing me like nothing was going on around us. We went back to the hotel and in bed, we did what he said. He was so dominant and would hold me down and made sure I felt it all and didn’t move. He was amazing. We literally had sex ALL night. The next day, I went to work late and freshly fucked and I did the walk of shame in front of his aunt, but I was mind blown. Every time we would meet up, we would drink, party, and have mind-blowing sex everywhere! We had sex in front of random houses, in a downtown parking lot, at his mothers house, in hotels, and in vacant apartments. He was always in control. He would pull over and say “here”, I’d say “okay”, he told me to bend over, and I would. I loved giving him blowjobs; one even cost him a rim and tire as we dove into a ditch. We did everything together, lunch/dinners, movies, parties, strip clubs, clubs, alcohol, and drugs. It was never dull. He introduced me to his family and fucked me in his childhood bunk bed as his younger brother sleep on the TOP BUNK while he covered my mouth to not make noise!! We were bad, but I loved every bit of it. It was always a rush.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The sex was amazing, and our chemistry never fell short, but eventually, I fell in love with him and wanted more, but and he had a dream to join the Navy and he didn’t want to commit. I walked and he let me go. I met my now husband after him and years later he called me one night before he deployed to apologize and wish me a happy marriage. He stayed with the girl he met after me and that was it. We talked 5 years later to clear the air and finally had closure. I learned that when he finally realized he wanted me in his life it was too late as I was engaged, so he settled. We took different paths, but the sex memories never faded for either of us.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I shared with my course friends. Some enjoyed hearing my stories, but others thought he was toxic.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I regret that it ended the way it did, but I understand it would have never worked because he could not give me the life and commitment I wanted.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The Sex!!!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The way we pushed each other away because we wanted different things. I walked out of his life and he met someone during this time. When we thought we could work things out, I discovered he had someone else. I gave him no choice and left for good.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I had the best sex of my life! Even though i found love and married, the sex is great but it will never be with that kind of chemistry and assertiveness HE had.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is important, and gives your great experiences but it can ruin your intimacy expectations with other partners.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great way to learn and share real life stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!