What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What country and/or city do you live in? Beirut
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Chef
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
He broke up, we hooked up
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? White amazing smile, charming by nature and well fit for my taste. Known him for 5 months approx, we used to go out with a group of friends from work. It was the first time we hooked up. We met at work, he’s on the service line and I’m on the cooking line. I never thought about hooking up with him, I had straight feelings towards him, didn’t appeal to me much. He had a girlfriend.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My bed. After several visits, we were talking about his break up and how torn he is and how to look ahead and fix everything in his life, including his career. It was more of an improving his character and knowledge conversation. He loves her. I know that. We were talking then he asked me to play with his hair, makes him feel safe and warm. I did. We didn’t plan anything ahead. Never thought about it. Obviously, he started it. No bad intentions intended, he started hugging me and his breathing got warm and close that I couldn’t resist.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He kissed me, I resisted. We work together, I will see him tomorrow. He nodded and denied, proceeded and everything got to animal instinct. Warm, safe, secure, fierce, enjoyable and intense. We had sex. He came, tried again, he came, apparently, he was able to cum 8 times without any problem. It was a problem for me. He was frustrated and annoyed and ashamed. We spoke, told him it’s alright since you have been with your ex but never had any intercourse. It was understandable. We had sex and it felt good and caring. It was great, despite the thickness of his dick. He was caring. He showed he was comfortable and loving. He was a good lover indeed. He felt bad after all and thought he was cheating on his ex. Ended up with a reconciliation. It’s alright, you didn’t cheat. You needed this, and you feel good about it. Relax, you enjoyed it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good, but I felt I wanted more. I had the same scenario I have at all times. Hooking up, oh he’s good, we could definitely live together, good partner and so on. Stop right there you and your ideas. Relax it’s just a hookup. Expecting a call, something. Got a text. Saw him at work. I feel good about him, I like him, and that’s not good. Cleverness is not to fall into expectations.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The expectations
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me realise I can still be valued.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Can’t stop it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? In society, it’s pure stress and illogical ideas. It’s just casual sex, get over it. Men want sex? We have needs too. We don’t need to be called sluts for having hook ups. I’d want people to stop judging just for the sake of it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!
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