by Anonymous
Gender: Female

Age: 18
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: United States
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Unemployed
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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He Had A Girlfriend

How long ago did this hookup happen? A year and a half ago

How would you best classify this hookup? one-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He and I had met a couple months prior. He was tall, had a faux hawk that he didn’t take the best care of, and was full Puerto Rican. I met him that year because I had just switched to a new school for my senior year. I was really attracted to him from when I first met him, and I honestly couldn’t figure out why I was so attracted to him. I couldn’t do much about liking him though, because I knew he had a girlfriend. The kind of girlfriend that could easily kill me if she wanted to.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at the mall one day, and he had some pot and I had never smoked before so we walked out to the woods to get high. After I was stoned, I remember having a long conversation with him about how I liked him and how much it sucked he had a girlfriend. We didn’t do anything that day, but a few days later at school we both cut class and hid out in the boy’s bathroom at school (I know, so classy). I was sitting on the window sill and he was leaned against the wall and I remember him saying “If you’re that attracted to me, then just come kiss me. I’m not stopping you.” So I did.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I remember it escalating really quickly. He was about a foot taller than me, so it was easy for him to just bend me over and do it doggy. We didn’t really have much conversation, mainly because we knew we were limited on time, and that if we actually talked about what we were doing, it would kill the mood completely because we’d be reminded of all the shit that was about to come after. He ended up thrusting so hard that I actually tore a bit, but in the matter of only ten minutes or so, he was able to finish and give me an experience that I knew I wouldn’t regret no matter what happened next.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We had a quick exchange of words before actually having sex that went along the lines of “Are you clean? Have you been checked?” Which we both said yes to and trusted each other enough to continue without a condom. I was also on birth control. And a month or so later I went and got another STD screening just in case and was completely fine.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Because I was really really attracted to him, I was a hormone stricken 17 year old, and I knew I wouldn’t have to commit.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I mean kinda. I probably wouldn’t have told him that I had interest in him that quickly if I hadn’t smoked that day at the mall. But on the other hand, we still didn’t hook up that day, and the day we actually hooked up we weren’t intoxicated at all and it would have happened eventually even if I hadn’t talked to him about it prior.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Oh god this is the greatest part of the story.
The day we hooked up was a Friday so we didn’t have school for the next couple days. His girlfriend and I had only met once before she got expelled for something. She was half black, half Rican, with a British accent and was extremely intimidating even though we were the same height and probably weighed the same. I remember on that Sunday I got a call from a private number that I answered. The voice was like “Hey, I’m [not using his name]’s girlfriend. Did you fuck my boyfriend? I’m going to be pretty pissed if you say yes, but if you say no and I find out you’re lying, I will find out where you live and I will get you.” And instantly I was like “Yes I did. I’m sorry”. I could tell she was surprised how quickly and confidently I admitted it and she said “I’ll be at the school tomorrow. Be prepared.”
Next day I went to school and a friend of mine told me she was coming and she was going to fight me. The funniest part, the guy denied ever hooking up with me at all. He told his girlfriend I wanted attention. I mean, why the fuck would I lie to a girl I’m actually scared of that I fucked her boyfriend? I don’t know.
Long story short, the girl never showed up at the school. The guy and I never talked again. I transferred schools a couple months later after almost hooking up with his brother.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to his brother about it, and instead of judging me about it, it actually made him interested in me. I think it’s because he knew if I’d hook up with his brother knowing he had a girlfriend, that I’d be easy with him. It was pretty fucked up. I ended up kinda liking him, but I knew the reasons why he had any interest in me and I never did anything with him.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, it was consensual, just not well thought out and very spur of the moment.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. Although a bunch of shit came after, I wasn’t good enough friends with him prior for losing him to affect me. I transferred schools, graduated, and moved on. I don’t need scummy people like him, his brother, or his ex girlfriend in my life.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: The great sex. Worst: Getting my life threatened to be taken from me and having to hide all week in school lol. It didn’t long term change my mentality on anything at all, but I did view myself as dirty and had pretty bad confidence issues after it for a little while. I felt whorish, and I felt bad for myself. I still had more casual sex with other partners afterwards, so there weren’t any grudges held against casual sex from that specific experience. But now I hate casual sex. It usually ends with a feeling of loneliness, and a want to feel loved.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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