by Do I Really Gotta?

Gender: Male
Age: 42
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: TX
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Engineer
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Unitarian?
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Polyamorous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30-ish
How many hookup stories have you posted here before? 5

Hidden Agenda

How long ago did this hookup happen? Dec. 2011

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Complicated

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was set up with “BB” in 1990 by a classmate in college (mostly so I would quit hitting on said classmate). She was my go to booty call for nearly 5 years before I married my first wife (perhaps it was to get her to leave me alone?). She was almost stalker level obsessed with me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She found me on facebook and we reconnected. It came out that I was in an open marriage, so we flirted, some sexting. She wanted to have an affair, I should have seen that as a clue…
We had a roll in the sack while my wife was at work one afternoon, my wife knew about it beforehand. And she left before my wife got home from work. So this wasn’t the first time she came over for a hookup.
A couple weeks later, she turned up with 2 tickets to the in-state rivalry football game. I suggested her and my wife go because I had to work.
They spent the afternoon getting trashed, tailgating before the game. But their team lost BADLY, so they bailed at halftime. I was home by then.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? They vented to me about how rude the other team’s fans were, then my wife went to bed a short time later. She knew what was going to happen, but didn’t want to participate.
We ended up in the spare bedroom doing doggie style. I was going for anal, but she was worried about it hurting her, so I just stuck my thumb in her ass while I hammered her pussy. After I got off, I kissed her good night, flushed the condom and cleaned up. Then I climbed into bed with my wife.
The next morning I woke up early for work and was unsatisfied, so I tried to get a little from the Mrs. She wasn’t having it. SO, like a fool I went and woke up “BB” with some morning sex. (My wife was PISSED about this, btw)

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes and yes.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I always used a condom with her, even though she was infertile.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Because I could.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Maybe a beer for me, a few for the girls.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I got up and went to work.

Afterward “BB” became very clingy and was starting to trying create problems in my marriage, so she had to go.
I have since blocked her out of my life because she didn’t respect my marriage and tried to make me hers. Hopefully, I never run into her again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I bragged a little at work that morning, mostly for the shock and jealousy of it all. Not very often you can one-up college kids in a college town…

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Started out consensual, but later became a problem.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes. This created a strain in my marriage that is still healing.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best, having naughty sex
Worst, getting wrapped up with a psycho bitch (AGAIN).

This closed my formerly open marriage and made me feel very guilty for a long time because of how badly my actions hurt my wife.
I should probably get it through my head that just because I can, does not mean I should.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I think this was “BB”‘s plan all along. Worm her way in to my life and try to seduce me all for herself. This was a pattern she has used on me for many years, with more success than I care to admit.

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