What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
High As Fuck and Loving It
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years and some months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at a party after I had drank about 4 shots of shitty vodka and decided that rage cage was not my game. I sat on the couch in the first open spot, interrupting a stoner circle and said “I just want to smoke. I don’t do too well in big groups”. I didn’t realize how attractive the guy next to me (Max) was at the time. I noticed he was tall even sitting down, had broad shoulders, looked really fit, and an amazing smile.
Max: Well right to the point aren’t you?
Me: I’ve actually never gotten high before, this just looks a lot calmer than the 20 people surrounding the rage cage table
He was rolling a joint in seconds, asking me to step outside to smoke it. I obliged. In hindsight, everyone at the circle looked so high and Max was one of the only ones really moving. When we got to the balcony 5 feet away from the couch, we started talking and he was teaching me how to smoke a joint. We made some small talk and he got really close to me. I was really innocent at the time because I had lost my virginity the week before to a hallmate after a crazy party, so I didn’t catch any signs.
It was standard drunk/high conversation about where we were from and whatnot (most of it I don’t remember). I distinctly remember him putting his hand on mine trying to intertwine them and I was shocked I kind of just took it back really quick. He then suggested we head back inside so I can try smoking from a bong. I got incredibly fucked up that night and ended up sleeping the party host’s bed for a couple of hours incoherently talking about my first two weeks of college and how much I loved sex even though I’ve only done it a couple of times. Max was right there talking me through it. He also asked me for my number. I left the party in an Uber when I felt better and slept right away.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I actually promised my parents I would go back home the next day (Saturday). I woke up still crossfaded with a text from Max “Are you okay?”. I told him “Yeah, now I have to face my parents like this”. I recovered as my parents drove me back home and slept some more in my bed back home. We texted all weekend and talked about mostly nothing, with him offering to smoke again with me another time in his dorm when I got back. He was so friendly, at the time I thought he was just offering an olive branch for saturating me with too much weed the first time around.
I eventually got dropped off at my dorm and immediately showered, changed, and walked to Max’s dorm. I wasn’t really comfortable with guys at that point, so I sat a bit away from him as he set up his rig. Something that was also new to me. I ended up getting high out of my mind (in a moderately good way) and had to lay down on his bed. He was a seasoned stoner, talking about his smoking habits. We continued talking to me in his chair and eventually got in to show me some visual effects.
Max: So, why did you talk about sex at that party?
Me: I don’t know, it’s just so new to me, but it’s like a whole new world.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Things were really hazy at this point, I don’t know how it really began but Max initiated and I was taken aback since I didn’t know how easy hooking up would be in college.
I was so wet as he slowly took off my shorts and my panties. His fingers were slender like a piano player’s and he started fingering me so methodically. It was so much more different to my previous (probably inexperienced first hookup). I was getting so worked up. His sweats put in minimal effort to hide his hard bulge. I took them off, and then his briefs. His dick was so big. I couldn’t help but to ask him “how big is your dick” in shock. “Close to 7 inches” I had to use two hands giving him a handjob.
Before I knew it we were about to have sex. I asked him if he had a condom, but he didn’t. I was really hesitant and said I wasn’t on any birth control. He said he could pull out. I agreed because I was so horny and hungry for his dick at that point.
He entered me slowly. It was so satisfying having him fill me up and he was in so so deep. He pumped slowly at first and then picked up the pace. I was overwhelmed by sensation from having orgasms and highness I submitted to all of his commands to switch from missionary to doggy and to finally me on top. I was also really insecure and asked him “am I doing anything wrong? feel free to tell me and help fix me if I am” while I was riding him. He just smiled at me and said that I was doing great.
It felt like it was close to an hour until he was thrusting really fast into me telling me he was about to cum. He grabbed my head and put my mouth on his cock. I swallowed as he came into my mouth. I went to go pee and went right into his bed without asking to knock out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up in his bed the next day and we had morning sex with his roommate in his room. It was fun. I was infatuated with him for the next couple of months because he was really good at sex. I wanted to stay friends with benefits with him and maybe even turn it into a relationship but that didn’t happen.
He was my sexual awakening and I wish I could thank him for introducing me to so many techniques and experiences both inside and outside the bedroom. He actually turned me into a pretty heavy smoker as we would always get baked before having sex. I started associating weed with sex. He was the biggest and best dick to date. I crave it from time to time. But we don’t talk to each other anymore and now I’m in a pretty messy serious turned casual relationship with another guy. Sometimes I wish I could go back to him and tell him about all the things I learned and see if we would have really hot sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How great he was at sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Made me associate weed with sex and how we both just ghosted each other a couple of months after. He also never performed oral on me but I always gave him plenty of blowjobs.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, casual sex is fun but also hurts when feelings get involved.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It is beautiful and fun sharing new experiences with different people.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome!
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