by Cece Cooper

Gender: Female
Age: 29
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Omaha NE
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Bartender
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

High School Crush

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ll call him A. Me and A went to high school together, and I always had a thing for him, but he was always dating my other friends. We lost touch after graduation, but about a year ago we reconnected on Facebook. Well, a couple weeks ago he showed up at the bar I work at. I wasn’t working that night, but it was payday, so I was drinking pretty heavily. And he looked good. He got really fit since I’d seen him last. We also come from the same background so we had a lot to talk about and catch up on. After a while he started stroking my leg, and we ended up going to my apartment. We just got along so well, it felt like the most normal, comfortable thing.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were getting pretty friendly at the bar so it just seemed natural to take it to my apartment. I live within walking distance and neither of us needed to be driving. Once we got in the door we were both all over each other. It wasn’t really planned but I think we both knew it was going to happen.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was great and awkward at the same time. He clearly knew what he was doing, and we went through a variety of positions over the course of a few hours. I started giving him oral in the parking lot before we even made it inside. Later he tried to do anal but I said no and he was cool with that. The sex itself was great, the only problem was that I am in the process of a move so I am still sleeping on a futon. I did come twice but when he wanted to keep going it started to hurt, metal rods were literally poking me in the back. Also I was worried that my roommate might walk in at any second.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I came twice, I think he did twice also (not at the same time).

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom the first time but after that we went unprotected. I am worried about that because I don’t know his history that well and I am a little scared.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We were attracted to each other, and in a way it seemed like an accomplishment, like I finally got the guy I couldn’t get in high school. Cheesy but true.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? There was a pretty heavy amount of alcohol in my system. But I still had my wits about me; I knew what I was doing. He was drinking too but not as much.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Well I was worried that my roommate would be back and walk in on us, so I had to kick him out at 7 AM. I think we both would have been happy to sleep in and continue. But I don’t expect much out of it. I’m not looking for a relationship at all right now. He has messaged me a few times so we might continue a friends with benefits thing. Right now I’m too busy for much of anything.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only a few close friends from work. They pretty much said, hey, good for you (LOL). But I haven’t told my two closest friends, mostly because one of them dated him back in the day and I’m afraid of what her reaction will be. And the other one will tell her for sure.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Definitely consensual for both parties.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not a bit. My only regret is not having more comfortable accommodations at the time.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: I reconnected with an old friend and I had fun. Worst: My best friend’s reaction when she inevitably finds out.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? All names have been changed (including my own). Other than that, everything I write is 100% true. I find this project fascinating.

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