What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 61
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Self-employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hike friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We came from different parts of the world and both worked in this other country on short-term contracts and met in a hiking club, first time because she needed a ride to get to where the hike started. It became a routine that she came with me each time we both joined the hikes. We shared many interests – nature, politics… – and chatted a lot. I also invited her to join me on a couple of other one-day trips out of town at weekends. On an impulse, one Saturday night, I invited her to my place to watch a movie. No physically sexual happened, but I think we both felt the tension. A few days later, I took her home after a morning hike, and she invited me in for an early lunch, which we prepared together. Afterwards, we moved to the couch, side by side, because she wanted to show me some photos from a long trip she had done with her ex. I don’t know who started, but suddenly our hands were all each other and we kissed. We stopped and laughed, stood up and continued with me between the wall and her back, kissing her neck, groping her thighs and bum, stroking her stomach and breasts, both with our clothes on. She said that we should perhaps think about this since I was married. Or – she looked towards the bed we could see through the open bedroom door – should we just jump in, get ourselves a good bonk and get it over with it? It wasn’t just a joke, but we smilingly calmed down and agreed that we should at least wait a month, when she would be back from a visit back home.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the first hike when she was back, I invited her in for a bite and a drink. Afterwards I more or less led her to outside my bedroom, where no-one from outside could see us. We started kissing and touching and she quickly unzipped my pants, took out my cock (after I helped with the undies) and just said “its big. I guess it is not necessarily a lie (I cannot compare). It turned me on, I got rock hard and she started sucking it quite vigorously. This was the sign that I could do whatever I wanted. My hand found its way, opening her blue jeans zipper, sliding underneath her panties and feeling her full bush and a very wet pussy. She moaned, and even more when I stroke her clit gently. I soon had three fingers moving in and out, sliding gently over the clit. She later told me she was close to climax, but regardless we cut it short, undressed and went to bed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  I entered her and moved my cock quite gently, she sighing of pleasure (I probably did the same). We spent the next one and a half hours in bed, doing kinds of regular and not too kinky stuff. A lot of oral from her, some from me. I kissed her a couple of times with my tongue and lips full of her wonderful juices, we talked about it when we were doing it and it made us both extremely horny. Missionary, doggy style, from the side. A lot of it, and of kissing and touching. She orgasmed twice with the help of her own fingers, with my cock inside, moving it gently or not so gently, kissing her and whispering how lovely she was. Each time she came, she said “fuck, fuck” just before. It was wonderful to be inside her then, holding her tight afterwards, still with my cock inside, cuddling her. I finally took her, using a condom that she had brought (!), looking her in the eyes and telling her that I now filled up her tight, wet pussy.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt lucky. She was just a few years younger than me, menopausal (as my wonderful wife back home) but immensely attractive (without being a model), fantastic in bed, grateful for the good sex we had shared. She texted me and said she was going to by a whole lot more condoms. We did meet, about fifteen times more over a couple of months. Very much the same type of sex. After a while I came on her breasts or stomach in stead of with a condom, and then the last five-six times in her pussy without protection. For me – and her, I think – that just made it even more fantastic. Then, almost at the same time, we both moved back to our home countries. We knew that it would end in that way, and that we will not meet again. We keep in contact by whatsapp and the like, though.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Great sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That my partner wanted it to continue and develop into a long-lasting relationship.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? In spite of having had many sexual partners in life, yes, somewhat. A reminder that sex is fantastic and a strong force for good.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Double-edged sword. Good, good. But still something that can ruin relationships. Maybe the results of this project can increase awareness and change attitudes a little, making us more comfortable whíth the fact the casual sex is a part of life.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? See above.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!