by Jake Miramar
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Filmmaker
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 75+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 Months Ago
What was your relationship status at the time? On a break
How would you best classify this hookup? Short Fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met while hiking in the trails above Los Angeles on a hot afternoon. I had been cooped up working all day, and was very frustrated sexually. My girlfriend had dumped me about a week before and I couldn’t believe it. I left the house thinking some exercise would help me calm down and focus on the work I needed to get done. I left the house wearing board shorts and no shirt and started running up the trail into the hills.
As I was nearing the halfway point, I saw a woman was coming downhill toward me with walking sticks. I smiled, and she smiled back. She was about 5’5″, with black hair, was bright eyed, and in her late 30’s. I’d seen her walking on the trail a couple times, so I said hello. Since I was now single, I realized I really didn’t know my neighbors very much. We made small talk, and she told me she’s an artist, I told her I’m a filmmaker and I was looking to make more friends with people in the community. She gave me her phone number. She seemed very shy, but I left even more aroused than when I started on the hike. I imagined just taking her off the side of the trail and bending her over a tree and fucking her brains out, but I chalked that thought up to raging hormones. The next day, I was hiking and ran into a mountain biker. He stopped, we said hi (like I said, I wanted to meet people) and he let me know that *Angela (whom I had met the day before) was his wife.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Later that night, Angela texted me telling me to come visit her artist’s studio. She wanted to introduce me to another filmmaker friend of hers. So I went. We all smoked a little pot and drank Tequila. He was older than her and we all talked for a few hours. She’d been married a few years, had two young kids, and missed the adventures she’s had in her life. Her husband is a psychology professor. We hugged and I went home.
About 30 minutes later, she texted me: “Just wanted to clarify that I am game to furthering our interaction in a physical way (with ground rules) if that’s your thing. Life is precious and I dig the dopamine.” I couldn’t believe it. The sexual charge I felt the whole time was there, and here she was just laying it at my feet. I told her to come over. She did.
When she got to my house, we exchanged pleasantries. I started to offer her something to drink, but stopped mid sentence. We started making out like horny high school kids.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? In the middle of making out, she stopped and let me know she and her husband had an agreement in their relationship. She could make out and maybe do oral. I told her I was very freshly broken up. We continued making out and I touched her over her pants. She took her top off, but kept her pants on. I pushed her onto the bed and she was very flexible and loving it. She took my shirt off, pulled me down beside her, and took my cock out of my pants. She started stroking it, and I could feel her about ready to break her rule. I told her “no no, we’re not having sex” and she lowered her head down and started enthusiastically sucking my cock. She moved her whole body, bringing me deep into her throat, and massaged my balls. I grabbed her hair and fucked her face. When I was about to come I told her, and she took her mouth off, slowed down, and savored the moment. She stroked me slowly. Then I pulled her head back down onto my cock. We repeated that a few times until I finally asked if she wanted me to come and she just kept nodding her head with my cock in her mouth. I came, hard, and it pushed down the back of her throat. It was a big load, but she took another swallow then went to the sink.
She came back and laid down next to me and we relaxed in reverie.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterword, she was very sexually frustrated, and said she was going to talk to her husband about fucking me. I felt a little awkward about that. She then tried to get me to come over multiple times, but since we live in the same neighborhood and she has young kids I decided it was best if I just kept my space.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Revenge / Getting even, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told no one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I feel like I’m contributing to another person’s delinquency, even though she’s more of an adult and is experiencing a much different stage of life than I am.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Other than fulfilling a fantasy to hook up with a complete stranger (and receiving amazing head), she said “I can’t believe your girlfriend broke up with you. She’s an idiot.” And when she grabbed my rock hard cock she said “…oh my god” in a way that let me know she missed having a young hard cock like mine in her mouth.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? She texted me on Mother’s Day wanting to go round 2.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’d always heard that when women get older they get hornier, this seemed proof of that. It also reaffirmed my belief in myself as being able to spot really horny women.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sometimes I think I’ll still call her up and fuck her crazy. Sometimes I leave on a hike wondering if I’ll run into her on the trail again, and get a chance to fuck her silly before she goes back to her family.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, I wish I had more of it, but I sometimes feel guilty afterward and I don’t think that’s a societal thing.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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