What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? Late 40s
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Ireland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Horny
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was an 18 year old blonde from the north of England, very pretty, small boobs.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Met her in a bar in Majorca, I was with my buddy, she was with a friend. We made immediate eye contact but I didn’t think anything of it. She approached me a bit later, told me she loved my accent (might sound naive but I didn’t realise the Irish accent was ‘sexy’ then. She told me she was engaged (I thought how ridiculous at that age) and was on a trip with her friend which she had booked before her engagement. Boyfriend couldn’t come because he was in the forces or something. We ended up snogging at the bar, she said she was tired and going home tomorrow, can I walk her back to their apartment.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got into her apartment started more snogging, next thing I know she is on her knees opening my 501s and starts sucking my cock like she was being paid for it. I was living it and she asked if I wanted to come in her mouth. I wanted to fuck her so said no, would like to her instead (I know, stupid). She gets naked quickly and jumps on the bed with her legs spread and says, “Are you going to make me come Catholic boy?” I had no interest in religion or anything like that but she obviously felt she was doing something really horny and was making it hotter for herself. I jumped on and gave it a good go. We did it missionary, doggy, 69 the whole lot except anal, I came after about an hour ( I was good back then). She had a tattoo of a cuddly toy on one of her buttocks. We were eventually interrupted by her roommate who brought another guy home. They went for it on the balcony.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Woke up in the morning, she had to pack to leave, we exchanged phone numbers and I left
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My buddy next morning and my wife years later
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I was picked up, she did all the running
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we met on the last night of her holiday and couldn’t repeat it
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She was a gorgeous bundle of fun and sexy energy, she went for what she wanted, good on her. It happened to be me that night and I’m grateful.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is fantastic, more people should do it, married or single. Sex is just sex, it’s great fun and people should take any opportunity to bump skin. You only live once. My only regret is that I didn’t have more casual sex when I was single.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great idea.
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