What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? free spirit
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? >5
Hook-Up At A Party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago.
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was in his mid-20s, was a nice, average looking guy with a patchy beard and a starter beer gut.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was Thanksgiving break. A group of my friends had come in from various colleges and decided to have a party. I knew the guy hosting. His parents left for Jamaica the day after Thanksgiving and he was a great source for pot.
I was excited to go but also bummed my boyfriend couldn’t make it since he works mandatory non-stop 12 hour days at a distribution center. He insisted I go, have a good time, and share details with him later. LOL.
My dad was out of town working and I didn’t want to sit at home alone, so I went.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I wore a short red Christmas dress and heels. The house was packed with old friends and people I’d never met. The people inside were drinking. I made my way outside to the group smoking pot. I sat next to the guy and we shared a joint. We didn’t talk much then I felt his hand move onto my bare leg. I moved my hand over his crotch and felt he was hard. I whispered in his ear, “Do you want to fuck?” He nodded yes. We left and found a bedroom. I gave him a condom then took off my panties. He fucked me fast and got off quickly. I put my panties back on and we went back outside.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He must have gotten nervous because he confessed he had a girlfriend and that he was afraid she’d find out. I told him no worries, that I don’t ‘kiss and tell’. I also told him I have a boyfriend. That calmed him down while we took turns on one last joint. He left soon after. I stayed and chatted with friends.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BF. He thought it was funny the guy blew his load that quick and he couldn’t stop laughing.
My BFF Beck. She was cool with it. She also had a good laugh. LOL
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with someone I’d just met.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It didn’t last long.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? We shouldn’t be ashamed of having sex with people we’ve just met or with good friends.
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