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by Ari

What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 17
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Michigan, USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student, tutoring elementary school kids
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hooked Up with a Dominant Older Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I hooked up with a 37 year old man. He was attractive, slightly overweight but I thought he was handsome. We met on a kink/fetish dating site. I’d been messaging him for a few weeks, getting to know him. He seemed like a really good candidate for my first Dom/sub experience (I’m a submissive person sexually). We had been talking all day and at midnight he offered to pick me up and drive me to his house so I could give him head. I agreed, and he picked me up. I was nervous about it, since I don’t have much sexual experience, but I was also really excited and willing to be his sub.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He offered to pick me up, and I agreed. He picked me up and we drove to his house, where we hooked up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was his sub during our hookup. He ordered me around, I had to address him as Sir, etc etc. I really liked it. We made out and got comfortable with each other before he ordered me to suck his cock. He had to kinda teach me since I wasn’t that good, I but I enjoyed it. He came in my mouth. After more cuddling/kissing/touching, I sucked his dick again and he finished on my chest. I loved that he was Dominating, but also gentle and reassuring with me. We also just talked about our lives, etc. I really really liked it, and he was an excellent lover.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I really liked it and felt good about it the next day, but I was nervous because my partner didn’t know I wasn’t 18, even though my birthday was in a few months. I told him about it, and he called everything off at least until I was 18. We stopped all contact with each other. I hope to reconnect with him once I turn 18. I still really enjoy the way he treated me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my roommate and my best friend about it. They were concerned that I would get too emotionally involved, and that an older man who is hooking up with younger girls has emotional issues.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I loved the way he controlled me and made me feel. I loved pleasing him.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that it didn’t happen again after he found out I was 17.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, though I am a little more self confident now

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I really liked it and I want to hook up with him again.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is hated on way too much. If people want to have fun and are being safe about it, let them go for it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think its great idea for people to share their stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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