What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Houston
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 43
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hooking Up with My Best Friend’s Husband
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is my boss, and also my best friend’s husband. The sexual tension was always there, the constant flirting at work, “accidental” touches, the detailed talks of our sex lives. We’ve always wanted each other and we both knew it. The snaps we sent each other when his wife wasn’t home, it was all bound to happen eventually.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My best friend/his wife is away visiting family. We started snapping immediately after she left and the snaps got heavier and heavier. He finally told me to come over.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Soon as I got there he said, “Do you know how long I’ve been waiting for this to happen,” grabbing my face with the heaviest first kiss I’ve ever received. The kissing was probably the best I’ve ever had. The sexual tension had been building up for way too long. I sat in his lap, my lips on his, grinding my body against his for a good 10 minutes. We moved to the bedroom and we had sex for 5 hours straight. The kinkiest, dirtiest, sexiest and best sex I’ve ever had.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I feel great about our hook up, we’ve decided to keep this going when she isn’t home. There aren’t any romantic feelings whatsoever and never will be, and I like it that way with him. He’s a taken man with a baby, I hate to say it, but married men do it best.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. It’s our secret.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was so sexy and dirty. Knowing what my best friend is getting every night makes me feel so slutty and I love it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that we can’t hook up a lot unless she’s gone.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I want to sleep with more taken men.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. There’s no commitment, I can be whoever or do whatever I want to be in the bed and if I don’t ever want to see that person again I don’t have to. I wish more people weren’t so quick to judge those who like to sleep around but it happens. I’m just doing me and I love it. Having casual sex has made me so much more in tune with my body and what I like and dislike. It has greatly opened my interest in all sorts of men, I love it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great to read about and know there are other people out there who love the same stuff I do.
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