What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Hooking up with Mr T.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him through Tinder… Figures… He was a younger guy (24) looking for experiences and he wanted to meet older girls. We started chatting and actually liked the conversation, but at the time I was traveling a lot and we were not able to meet immediately, but we liked to talk and we kept chatting and talking on the phone for about 4 months before we met.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Finally one night we went for a drink, and he basically started kissing me right away. He was a little different than his pictures, shorter, but still cute, and he was a good kisser. We talked for a little bit and he kept touching me one way or the other. I actually liked it, made me feel like he really liked me…We left the bar and he walked me home. I wasn’t going to invite him in, I don’t usually sleep with guys on first dates, but he asked if he could use the bathroom…I knew what he was up to but just didn’t wanted to be rude. He came in and after he used the bathroom he just started kissing me again…

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Like I said, he was good at kissing, so I decided to just let the situation flow. He took me to my room and undressed me, and then he started undressing himself but he kept his boxers. He smelled kinda funny/weird too. I wanted to touch him, but he pinned my hands above my head… being a little into bondage I found that hot and let him continue… so far so good… then it all started to really suck… first, he started grabbing and pinching my breasts like they where not attached to a person, so I asked him to be careful, but he didn’t seem to listen. Then he started literally licking me all over… Ewwww!… is one thing to kiss and lick some parts of the body for arousal purposes, but licking a girl like she is a lolly pop is never good… so I tried to distract him again, I didn’t wanted to make him feel bad, but I was trying to make him stop and he wouldn’t pay attention at all … I released my hands and I tried to touch him again, but he didn’t let me, and he just got up and started searching his pants for a condom, and then started to remove his boxers… I saw his penis for the first time… to say it was small is an understatement… the condom didn’t even fitted him, it was that bad. Before I could think what to do and what to say he just got on top of me and started grinding into me… I just didn’t feel a thing. The condom kept sliding out so I told him we needed to be careful with that, but he was just acting like he was a god damn porn star!… he flipped me over my stomach and started to try to do me doggy style, but I just didn’t feel anything other than slapping against my ass. He finished, I didn’t. He rolled over and passed out… just like that, the whole thing took about 7 minutes! By that time I was no longer trying to be nice, he was completely selfish about the whole thing, never bothered to ask if I liked it, or listened to me at all, let alone provided an orgasm… So I went to the bathroom, cleaned up and found some cum in my ass, so that meant the condom just didn’t stayed in place, which freaked me out… I woke him up, told him he had to go, and the idiot asked money for a cab, because he had no cash!!! As if!!!… I wanted him out of there bad enough so I lent him 20 and said goodnight… Worse hookup ever!!!

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next day I felt bad… first, disappointed because I had really liked talking to him… But his attitude from the moment we got to my place was just the attitude of a horny guy looking for his own pleasure. I felt bad about the size thing, but I’ve been with guys who where not so big before and they usually worry about doing other things to please the girl. This guy just didn’t pay any attention at all, and I ended up feeling kinda used.

I also freaked out about the condom thing. I actually had to take a morning after pill (small dicks can still get you pregnant, said the lady at the clinic). A few weeks after I was still freaked out so I got tested, it was all good and clean, thank God!

He kinda disappeared and I didn’t text or called either. After about 8 months he started contacting me again, but for me it was all ruined.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my best friend, he laughed his ass out and told me I need to learn to say things without worrying if I am making anyone feel bad.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because it was not necessary for things to happen that way. Maybe if we had kept on talking or given it more time things would have been less sucky…

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Learned that I need to speak my mind no matter what…

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His attitude about sex, like the other person is just a vessel for his use and pleasure and not a person at all…

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I think sometimes we play along to things that don’t feel exactly right because we fear to offend the other person, and in sex you have to be able to say yes and no and to say what you like and makes you feel uncomfortable.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Guys, pay attention to your partner… Nobody is perfect, he can’t do anything about his size but he could have paid attention and listened, and that would have made the size thing irrelevant…or almost irrelevant…

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think is natural to have casual sex, and that it is ok as long as both parties consent, but that it need to be talked about more. Some of the experiences you get from casual sex can be good, but most times is hard to talk about it openly to be able to actually learn from these experiences.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it! found it by looking for casual sex stories because I was wondering if some other people have gone through some of the same experiences, and I loved reading some of the stories.

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