What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open minded, adventurous.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 24
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 8months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had met Cody through an app. Some friends and I were going to New York for the weekend (we’re from Colorado), and so I looked in the New York locals chat and we chatted sexually from the start. He was 20 years older than me, but he was very fit, dark hair, and very easy to talk to. We made plans to meet up, and my friends had to meet him to give the okay.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We talked nonstop in the week leading up to it, and I was freaking out because this would be the first time I would be unfaithful to my husband. He didn’t know I was married, but it wasn’t hard to hide that my marriage was crumbling. I hadn’t worn my ring in over a year.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met and after my friends saw he was on the up and up; we went to dinner and couldn’t stop touching each other. During dinner, he actually had me go to the bathroom to take my panties off and give them to him. People were looking, and I liked it. We left and went back to his place and immediately went to his room. He went down on me for a good 20 minutes. I was soaking wet, and finally, he turned me over and fucked me from behind. He was much bigger than my husband and made me moan with every thrust. He pulled my head back, kissing me while rubbing my clit, all while still pounding my tight pussy from behind. It wasn’t long before both of us came, and he pulled out and finished on my ass. We got together the next day and hooked up again. Then, a month later when I left my husband (who still knows nothing), Cody flew me out to see him again where we spent 4 days playing nonstop.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still keep in touch and have seen each other a few times. It’s always amazing, and he spoils me in and out of the bedroom. Never would I imagine getting such good luck from a little app.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends were all for it!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I met a new friend who is amazing in many ways. We have amazing sex with no drama or strings attached.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Distance.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it made me realize my marriage truly was over and opened me up to getting out and enjoying new experiences.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I always believed I needed to be monogamous, but now I’m more open minded but will let my partners know I’m open.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!
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