What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Exotic Dancer
What’s your current relationship status? On and Off
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20=
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Hookup after working at the club
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was dancing at a club when a group walked in. 5 business type men all older at least 50 plus. Silver hair and salt and pepper hair throughout the group. A small belly on a few but overall they were in good shape. I had been dancing for a few years and never even once thought of doing this. I got on stage and they immediately came over to watch. The one was very interested. He wore old spice and I loved the smell. After a few liquid encouragement drinks he just asked. He had the ability to make me go numb with his words. All but one was well endowed and above average. The one was average maybe a little more. The thing I loved was they were men. Dressed and acted as a man should. Very powerful and rough but in a way that made my melt.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Happened at a gentlemens club that I worked at. No planning and it was asked by one of the guys. However I didn’t exactly shy away from it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as the club closed I ran out as fast as I could. I met the men at a local hotel. Very nice room and classy place. I showered because of the fact that I had been working. The club is full nude so I didn’t even bother closing the door. We discussed limits and before I knew it I was lying in the bed. My towel was gone. I had a man between my legs all night. I took them in my mouth sometimes two at a time. I was so wet that I could feel it dripping down my legs. I knew they had taking some assistance and they worked as they stayed hard all night long. They then bent me over and took turns vaginally with me. Up until this night I had not tried anal. I felt some cool liquid touch my hole and I knew what was happening. I could end it with one word but I didn’t. I felt a sharp pain and started to cry. I was crying but was not sad at all just overwhelmed. As each one mounted me it hurt less and less. I heard the spitting noise and felt it hit my face. I was more turned on then ever before. I gagged and jerked as I was surrounded. Somehow we made it to the bathroom. I was on my knees taking them in my mouth. I felt a warm liquid hit my face and realized one after the other they were urinating on me. Usually I would be livid but tonight was special. I didn’t mind at all. I was exhausted but they continued to use me. After what seemed like the whole night I was left sticky and covered. I had told them I was safe and on BC and they took advantage of that much to my excitement. I had never felt that before. I laid in bed as they laid next to me. I woke up the next morning. I showered and thanked them. They thanked me as well and I left never to see them again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt kinda sad. I knew that I was irresponsible and knew that I should have not acted out of impulse. Luckily my BF at the time was out of town. I fed the story that I came home and fell asleep. Looking back after doing this multiple times and I realized that limits and sex are fun. Expanding them with multiple people is not a bad thing. I am overall glad I chose to have this night.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few close friends. Most were surprised I enjoyed older men. I didn’t go into detail like I just did but overall just a surprised reactions.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that I let go. I submitted myself to them. something I had never done before. I also loved that they were strangers. They did not let up but would have if I had used the safe word. The feeling of being overwhelmed was great.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The risk that could’ve happened with meeting with strangers. Good thing is it did not happen or end badly
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I casually hook up often now. I would not have prior to that night
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish women were treated equal as men when it comes to casual sex. Med look down on and so do women when it come to casual sex ladies. I wish society would stop doing this and understand the differences between making love and having sex casually because it feels good.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it
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