What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Belgium
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hostel Hookup with Latino on Valentine’s Day
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I took a short break from uni and visited Budapest on my own. There, I slept in a hostel and one of the guys who worked there immediately got my attention. On my second night, we were doing drinking games with a group and he was standing there at the reception dancing on reggeaton music, my favorite. It was not that he was particularly attractive, he was a bit smaller than me and also not really my normal type, but there was something about his vibe that really interested me. That night nothing happened.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The second night in the hostel we went to an amazing club with reggaeton music and I had the best time dancing. I was already quite tipsy when suddenly the Latino guy was standing right in front of me and took the lead in dancing. And you know, the Latin Americans dance really intense and super close, not what I was used to. As our dancing become more intense and intense I had the feeling that we were literally having foreplay on the dancefloor. I remembered the rest of the group from the hostel watching us, but I just did not care. He whispered in my ear: “The best moment of a kiss is the moment just before it” and stopped just before our lips touched each other multiple times. It turned me on so much, my god. It was three months after my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and this intimacy felt so good. He took me back to the hostel and there he arranged a room where we could have some privacy: the washing room. There it all started.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I remember that I was feeling a bit uncomfortable in the beginning, but he was really nice and gentle to me. As he slowly started to undress and kiss me, he kept on saying how beautiful my athletic body was. We lay down on the floor and I slowly felt him inside me. I was quite tense, so it was actually hurting me sometimes. He licked my pussy as I heard the washing machines turning round and round in the background and it felt like heaven. Then he took me from behind and pulled his hand around my neck, which really turned me on. It was so good to feel so wanted after the breakup, with some random, exotic stranger. It felt like we had sex for hours, and afterward, I realized we had. When we were done at 6 am in the morning I had no regrets about my first one night stand, which resulted in a short fling. He visited me in my home country and stayed at my place and we still talk a few times a week, since he is back in Latin America. It was a great hookup.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought that I would feel bad after a one night stand, but because I haven’t had sex for several months I really needed it so much. And I also had the feeling that we really clicked in some way, so no regrets. He is a sweet guy, but I see no future with him. It was a great experience just for that one time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup?
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my friends on WhatsApp. They were so surprised because I’ve never had a one night stand before. Wanted to know every detail of course.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The whole foreplay on the dance floor. We danced very intimately for hours and made me super turned on.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The sex hurt quite a lot because I needed a bit more finger work before he entered. Should have said that but because I did not know him that well I did not feel comfortable enough.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me feel more independent, adventurous and in charge of my own life
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to change how women are viewed having casual sex. Society should look more positive towards women who choose to have casual sex like they view men.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome! Such a great stories to read.
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