What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? SoCal
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Model/actor
What’s your current relationship status? Fell in love, trying to be faithful, worried
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Prefer women sexually, exlusively with women romantically
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? almost 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? several
Hot, Anonymous Club Sex with a Cute Girl
How long ago did this hookup happen? four years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Slender, dark-haired, grey sweater and jeans, heels, lipstick, pretty, pale-ish. At a club…never had seen her before (or after). I was high on an illegal substance, saw her dancing, was already turned on, and wanted to fuck a pretty girl.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’m recounting this because it’s representative of something I have had just a little of, totally anonymous sex. I saw her at the bar, I thought she was hot, I just impulsively went up to her and told her she was hot. She was taken aback I imagine, but was pretty drunk (it was clear in a minute or two), she said something back to me, I paid for her drink and then another for her and me before I started to stroke her back.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Honestly I was all over her at the bar, she didn’t stop me so I started to make out with her; she kissed back and it was hot. We stumbled to the hall outside the restrooms, where we pushed each other against the wall and made out harder. I took her hand to the end of the corridor where it was darker and put my hands under her sweater. She liked it and started to rub between my legs (I had a dress on.) She got a great rhythm going, and I started to go over the edge – and when I did, I bit her lip by accident. It was a fast, good orgasm (I climax fast, usually.) She made a sound when I bit her and wrapped her legs around me but didn’t come. I remember her saying how pissed off she was. I yanked her hand and we went in a stall; we didn’t even close it, and I unbuttoned her pants, pulled them down, and fingered her a little. Then she pushed her pants off, leaned back on the toilet seat and I went down on her, my head spinning, and then finally she came (loud).
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She caught her breath, pulled her pants up and we went back out to the dance floor. I intended to look for her and get her number but I was so blitzed I forgot and when I remembered the next morning it was too late.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Great sex, totally impulsive, unplanned.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not remembering to get her number because I was too wasted.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Actually, I kind of think anonymous sex like this is maybe better than casuals where you interact with people as though they were people when really all you care about is fucking them.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Obviously this was rather public but no one gave a fuck, which says a lot about something, doesn’t it? The girl was probably bi, I would guess, just based on the club and context – but the fact she let herself get fucked by a girl she had never met before says a lot about how women’s pansexual tendencies are really strong nowadays.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? At some point love seems more important, and I don’t think women (or men) can fuck everything in sight and maintain a love relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Therapy.
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