What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? free spirit
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >30
Hot Blonde Guy!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 28, with curly blonde hair, blue eyes, is tall (close to 6’ 6”), has a nice tan, is fit, and looks a lot like my ex-bf, but with blonde hair. He was wearing white shorts, a polo shirt, & boat shoes. Definite eye candy! He’s the manager of a car rental location 2 hours north of Miami & was in town to be a groomsman in a wedding. His friends decided to attend a Marlins game, lucky for me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My dad is a Marlins season tickets holder, but he’s out of town for work a lot. I love baseball and rarely miss a home game, and I mostly go alone. This weekend, the team was wearing retro uniforms and I wanted to wear my retro teal two-piece skirt outfit, a b-day gift from dad.
He was with a group of guys and he kept smiling at me and checking me out. I thought he was hot, so I motioned for him to sit in dad’s empty seat. He said I was ‘very pretty’ with his southern accent and thought I was a doppelganger of a celebrity. I blushed at his compliment. We talked between innings because I like filling out my own score card without help from the team app. He was cool, we flirted and talked baseball, but the Marlins wasn’t his team. I had my feet on the back of a seat and he complimented my tone legs, ‘cute’ feet, and toenails. I was wearing flat sandals and just got a teal pedi. I thought he was so hot, my heart was racing, my hands were shaking, and I kept dropping my pencil. I don’t know why. but I reached out and held his hand. I felt relief when he held on. The flirting was getting hot and he asked me to hang out & have a drink after the game. I told him don’t drink, but that I’d love to hang with him and smoke a joint. One of his friends had a few joints and would be willing to share. He put his arm behind me and I laid my head on his shoulder.
It was the 7th inning and the alcohol stopped, so his friends wanted to leave. He asked me to go, but the game was still tight. I told him I’d take him if he stayed. He said, “If the Marlins pull this one out. I think we should go celebrate.” I whispered in his ear, “That’s a great idea BUT I was planning on fucking you after the game.” His smiled and told his friend to leave without him.
The Marlins rallied to tie in the 9th and I was expecting extra innings until Ramirez stepped up in the clutch to drive Walker in to win the game. We left and the traffic wasn’t bad. I think most people had already left. We made a brief stop for condoms and he bought more beer. We arrived the house they’d rented and his friends were watching TV. He grabbed a beer & a small bag of rolled joints and we went out back. He drank a beer & I kicked off my sandals, put my legs up on the railing, and lit one. I felt relaxed. We held hands and stared at each other. He was so hot and I was turned on, I felt my panties getting wet. He finished his beer just as I finished the joint. I grabbed my sandals and we went to his room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We took off our clothes. His cock was above average and well groomed. I was so horny, I couldn’t wait to suck him. I got on my knees and started licking up and down to get it wet then I began sucking. I’ve had plenty of experience giving head. I could tell by his moaning and the way his cock was twitching that he was getting close, so I slowed down and only licked the tip. I told him I was ready to fuck. I admired his sexy firm ass as he walked across the room to get a condom. He started on top and I was so wet he went in easily. I was looking deep into his eyes as he maintained a slow pace. We kissed for the first time as I wrapped my legs around him. Our bodies connected and we found an amazing rhythm. It didn’t take me long to orgasm! I told him I liked it hard. Each time he slammed into me, it made a loud wet slapping sound. We did missionary & doggy for a long time until he finished.
He asked me to stay because it was late. It was so sweet of him to ask, but I politely declined. My pot buzz was gone, I only had a 10 minute drive AND I needed a shower. I can’t sleep if I feel sticky from sunscreen plus leaving the next morning is not cool when other guys are around. The wet slapping sound was so loud, they had to have heard us fucking. LOL It’s best to have fun & go.
I wanted to see him again, but didn’t have his number. Now’s not the time to ask cause he’d think I was a crazy stalker girl. While I was putting on my top & skirt, he took my phone, entered his info & sent himself a text. He held my hands, looked at me with his blue eyes and asked to see me again. OMG my heart melted! He’d be busy with the wedding Saturday, but asked me to hang out on Sunday. I had a prior commitment at the 9 am mass I couldn’t get out of. He said he’d like to attend mass with me as long as we spend the day together (OMG! YES!) He told me he’s protestant and would need my help to get through the service, lol and I gladly agreed. OMG! My ex-bf would NEVER go to mass with me. I know I was blushing because my heart was racing, I felt nervous and my hands were shaking again. He held my hands as we worked out details. He’d stay an extra day at a hotel then leave Monday. They had to leave the rental house on Saturday. I invited him to Sunday’s game too because I had an extra ticket. We then kissed and I left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up early Sunday morning to find the right dress & heel combo. I also spent extra time on hair & makeup. I was anxious to see him, but nervous he’d back out. He met me outside church (whew!). We attended mass then had brunch. He’s a nice guy with a sad past. His long time sweetheart/fiancé died in a car wreck on her way home from work one night 6 years ago. He’s tried dating, but nothing’s clicked. He opened up and said he felt something between us so he decided to stay an extra day. Normally, I come up with an excuse to leave when I get the ‘I feel a connection between us’, but not this time. We went to the game and the Marlins did much better. Our bats woke up and we dominated 5-1. We went back to his hotel room and had sex. We started with 69, he got on top, & I got on top. I spent the night & woke him up with a morning blow job, we had regular sex before we left.
I know I ramble, but I felt like adding this. We text & facetime all the time. He’s off every other Sat & Sun and asked to drive down on Sat. & spend the day. He’d stay at a hotel, attend mass with me on Sunday then drive back that afternoon. OMG! YES! However, dad was home that weekend and I NEVER make plans when he’s in. It’s something I insist on doing. I’d be so rude to turn him down after he took time to plan everything. I knew dad’s plans for the weekend so I took a chance & I invited him to lunch on Sat. Dad and his friends had an early tee time & I was making lunch while they hung out and watched golf or baseball for the rest of the afternoon. When things settled down, I’d make sure dad & his friends had everything and we could make our own plans.
I was so nervous when I hit send cause it sounded like I wanted him to ‘meet dad’. I knew it sounded too forward. I wouldn’t blame him for turning me down and moving on. My heart was racing waiting for a reply! 5 min passed, then 10min, no reply. I was about to panic, but I noticed he started replying. SORRY PRETTY GRL GOT BUSY then he quickly replied. GREAT! I’LL SEE YOU SAT! with a heart emoji. Whew!
Everything worked out great! He arrived early enough for us to have sex. He hit it off with dad and his friends, so he stayed and watch the game. We sat outside at the pool and talked until it was time to start dinner. I was in the kitchen when dad came in and told me to take him to a nice restaurant and they’d order pizza. He said the next time he’s in town, he didn’t need to get a hotel room. He could stay in our spare bedroom. WOW! Big change from the ‘no boys in the house rule!’
We stopped at his hotel and had sex then went to a restaurant. BTW: He insisted on buying my dinner. I normally don’t allow it, but he insisted. We went back to his hotel room, had sex, and I went home afterward. He met us for mass the next morning and joined us for brunch afterward, then he drove back.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BFF Beck. She thinks he’s hot!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Meeting a hot guy and having amazing sex with him. He’s willing to go with me to mass!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He lives 2 hours away.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think sex is something people can enjoy as friends or in a committed relationship.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He’s thinking of being transferred to location closer so we can see each other more. I’m excited!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish society would be more accepting of people having causal sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!
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