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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Pittsburgh
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Nonprofit executive
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? over 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hot Colombian Boy & a Beach Shack

How long ago did this hookup happen? Christmas 2015

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was Colombian – dark skin, dark eyes, and dark hair. I met him on the beach outside of my hotel in Miami. He works in jetski rentals, so he was working in a little shack on the beach. I went up to talk to him and we ended up talking for the rest of the day about so many interesting, deep topics about life. I was really intrigued by him and I knew he was into me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The day I first met him, we decided to hang out together later that night because we were getting along so well. I knew that when we made plans to see each other later something sexual would most likely happen, and I’m sure that he expected it too. I wasn’t sure, though, exactly what would happen or how far it would go.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I snuck out to the beach and into the shack where he was waiting for me. It was so cozy. We sat on the bench and started talking, and the chemistry was electric between us. Who would make the first move? How would this start? We both clearly wanted it…He came to sit beside me to smoke a joint and we “shotgunned” the smoke, meaning he blew it into my mouth. It felt so good to finally press my lips against his – although technically we weren’t kissing. After another few minutes of talking and shotgunning smoke, we started making out, and hard. I was exploring him and he was exploring me. His hands traveled up my waist to my breasts and I knew as soon as he started kissing my chest that I would fuck him. He picked me up and put me on the table and we kept kissing while undressing each other. I went down on him and he went down on me. then we had vaginal sex – and it was great. He was fucking me so hard while I was laying back on the table. We tried to switch positions and go to the ground or the chair, but it was a small space so we ended up back on the table. I didn’t come (I usually do…) but it was so hot to have this sexy Colombian riding me on the table. When it ended, we went out onto the beach and watched the waves come in as we continued to talk about life and looked at the shapes clouds in the sky. I saw him the next 2 days during my vacation and snuck out again on the last night back to his beach shack, when we fucked again – this time even harder and longer and I orgasmed multiple times. Overall, it was a great experience and one month later we still text casually to check up on each other.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we spent the whole day together talking about life and the world and poverty and opportunity and travel. We both enjoy each other’s presence. I enjoy his point of view, as he grew up in Colombia and I work and travel throughout Latin America, and he benefitted from my “world knowledge” I guess I would say. He said I really made him think about what he wants to do with his life. We still remain friends – and I would be inclined to see him again if I have the chance.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends – who were not surprised at all.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that it was in a little shack on the beach in Miami with a REALLY hot Colombian boy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I had to sneak away from my parents.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It hasn’t changed the way I think about my sexuality – but reinforces the fact that I like it kinky and I like Latino men.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Before I had sex with him – I was thinking for months “I need to get fucked, I need to get fucked”. So, when it finally happened…he did such a good job of FUCKING me. It was nice because we had an emotional connection and were able to talk about a bunch of things and I am attracted to him, but when it got down to business it was solely fucking and not love making. Which I enjoyed because it was what I needed at the time.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is very healthy with the right precautions. I no longer have sex with someone new when I am drunk. Every time I have casual sex, I make sure it’s my decision and not theirs. It’s because I want to do it. I have denied plenty of men the chance to fuck me because I’m not into them. I think more women need to be aware of what they know they want and to go after it, rather than let the man make the decision.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great – especially because casual sex is perpetuating society.

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