Race/ethnicity: White British
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
Occupation: Kitchen Assistant
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Hot Deaf Guy
How long ago did this hookup happen? About 3 months ago
How would you best classify this hookup? Hot deaf guy
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was on a weekend holiday in London with my grandparents and on the first night alone in my hotel room, I posted an ad on Craigslist. A lot of guys replied, but one guy who replied was really good looking. He was about 19, blonde, about 6 foot, and he had really great abs.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He said he was interested, and would meet me in my room. I sent him some pictures and he said he liked them. I gave him my number, and he texted me five minutes later to say he was outside my hotel; I could see him outside my window. I texted him my room number, and as arranged, I unlocked the door, and he waited ten seconds before coming in. I was super nervous, so we’d agreed that I’d be waiting undressed on the bed, face down, with a blindfold on. I thought being blind would make it less scary.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He started by rolling me over, and entering me in the missionary position whilst I was still blindfolded. He kissed me a lot, though he wasn’t a very good kisser. He then turned me over, lifted me up so I was on all fours on the bed, and did me from behind for a bit. Then he turned me over and took my blindfold off; I was very relieved to see that he was actually quite pretty close up, as his face hadn’t been completely clear in his photos. We then swapped back to doggy style again, when he tried to enter me anally. I panicked and said “no”, but he didn’t stop at first. I got quite scared and rolled over to tell him no, and then he reached for his phone and typed out in his memo app that he was deaf, but could lipread. This was a massive relief, and so we carried on as we had been before. When we got tired, we went for a shower together, then laid in bed together. Eventually, at about 3 am, he said he had to go. He got dressed, kissed me goodbye, and left. He texted me a few times again after that, but I’d already gone home back up north, so I just ignored them.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I had condoms, and said he could only have sex with me if he used them, which he was more than happy to agree to. We didn’t discuss STI history though. We probably should have in hindsight.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was lonely, and had been toying with the idea of a casual sex hook up before. Having a hotel room to myself in the center of London, I realized that I had a perfect opportunity, so I took it.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No drugs or alcohol at all
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he left, I just felt really surprised at myself, because it was something I’d never done before, so it just seemed really out of character. I also felt a little guilty, as he texted me saying hi quite a few times afterwards, so I think it meant more to him than it did for me.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few friends and now everyone knows. They all thought it was really funny, because he was deaf, which I thought was pretty unfair. I avoid the topic now.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, we both consented to this.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret not contacting him after to explain my (lack of) feelings towards him, but the hookup itself was really fun, and I learnt a little about what I do and don’t enjoy sexually.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best bit was learning what I did and didn’t like sexually, as I was pretty inexperienced beforehand. The worst bit was feeling guilty about him still wanting to text me after I’d moved back home.
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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