What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? free spirit
Hot Golf Instructor
How long ago did this hookup happen? One month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 61, sexy as hell, blue eyes, over 6ft tall, salt & pepper short hair, slim & fit with a nice body, retired from banking & OMG hot. I met him at the driving range.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I take classes at a Community College and picked golf for an elective because I’ve been playing since I was 12. I was never interested in playing tennis so my dad would let me go golfing with him and his friends. I got interested so he bought me custom clubs & golf lessons. Now, I spend the day golfing with my dad and his friends. My extra job is keeping beer and ice in the cooler & driving the cart. LOL
BTW: I was told I should’ve pursued a golf scholarship but I’m not interested in attending a 4 year school right now.
“Techniques of Golf” has 11 students & I’m the only girl. After the third week, we began meeting at a small driving range the school had an arrangement with. They also had volunteer coaches on hand to help. There’s 6 volunteers & 11 students. The instructor decided I needed my own coach because ‘I was a girl’. I gave him an obvious eye roll. WTF I’d told him I’d been playing since I was 12. The comment didn’t bother me as long as my ‘volunteer coach’ isn’t an arrogant part-time summer caddie that thinks he should be playing in the PGA and starts with ‘honey this is a golf club AND this is this end you grip with your hands’ shit. I don’t want to sound like a bad person or judging by appearance only, but a few of these ‘guys’ in my class, NEED to be shown what a golf club is AND which direction’s DOWN RANGE! LOL.
My ‘very own personal coach’ introduced himself. He was sexy hot and I was physically attracted to him instantly! OMG! My mind was going crazy & I started feeling a little nervous while checking him out! He was wearing a tight red shirt & white golf shorts that showed off his firm ass, muscular legs & calves! He gave me a polite gentleman’s greeting by taking my hand, kissing the top. I know my face was red from blushing because I could feel it get warm. He said, “Young lady, it will be my pleasure working with you today.” His deep smooth voice made my heart melt & my hands slightly shakey. I know this sounds silly but while he was holding my hand, I looked him in the eyes, bent my knees and replied, “Thank you, sir, the pleasure is mine.” Dad taught me to have good manners, be proper & polite while at the golf course.
We talked as I got things ready at my mat. His wife passed away last year so he decided to volunteer at the range because golfing is something he loves.
I think he knew I could play because he made a comment about my custom bag & clubs with pink grips. I told him it was a gift from my dad this past Christmas. I was wearing a white golf skort, pink polo with pink golf shoes & gloves. I noticed he was checking me out as I bent over, which gave me a feeling of excitement.
He hit two balls first just to demonstrate good technique. I took a couple of pics because his ass looked good when he flexed during his swing. We took a selfie together & sent it to my BFF Beck, ‘check out my hot golf instructor. She replied back ‘are you being a …. female devil emoji’
It was my turn & he observed my first two swings. I drove the first ball 125 yds then 130 yds on the second. He said, “You have a perfect swing. I don’t think I can offer you any help.” I began flirting & he did too. I hit a few more balls then noticed the putting area wasn’t busy, it never is at a driving range. I suggested we move over there. I fibbed & told him I needed help putting.
We flirted more as I got set up. On purpose, I used an incorrect stance. He caught it instantly & tried to tell me what to do. I suggested he stand behind me & show me. I stuck my ass out & grinded on his crotch. I kept telling him I wasn’t ‘getting it’ so he’d get closer & put his hands on my waist. I grinded him slowly till I felt him starting to get hard. He was poking me in the ass & I was getting turned on more. He politely said, “I think you’re ready to putt the ball in the hole now.” I said, “Feels like your best driver is ready to sink a hole in one.” The sexual tension was thick. I did a few putts then class was over.
We sat at an umbrella table & talked as I changed shoes. I loved looking into his eyes & listening to the story about how he met his late wife. I kept thinking this guy was an amazing person. There was a pause in our conversation, I put my hand on his & I told him I found him attractive & would enjoy a casual hook-up. He was hesitant at first but after a little convincing, he suggested we go to his place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to his bedroom. I removed my clothes, set a condom on a table from my purse, got on my knees, unbuttoned & pulled his shorts down. He was already hard and I started sucking him. He ran his hands through my hair, which I loved! He didn’t last long and he had to blow his load on my chest. I used my hands until he was completely finished.
I ran to the bathroom to clean myself then I used a wet towel to wipe his cum off the marble floor. He kept apologizing and tried to stop me from cleaning the floor. I put my finger over his mouth and had him lay on the bed. He was semi-hard as I began sucking him again. It took a little longer to get him hard but I didn’t mind because I enjoyed his hands rubbing through my hair. I was so horny my hands were shaking as I rolled the condom on his cock. I laid back, spread my legs and he crawled between them and got on top. I was looking down and watched as he guided his thick condom covered cock to my entrance. I felt him pressing against me then he gave me a HOT kiss as he entered me. OMG! I was so wet he went in easily and his motion was slow & smooth. I was loving it & words can’t describe the sensation I was feeling. I felt my body cumming on him as he continued. We kept kissing as he kept the same pace. Normally, I’m not into kissing during sex but this was HOT! My body began to shiver and I knew I was close. I wrapped my arms and legs around him and we were locked together tight. His cock was rubbing my ‘spot’ and the kissing sent me OVER! I orgasmed. OMG!! It was one of the best EVER!
I caught my breath and relaxed as he continued. His rhythm was different and he was going soft. He stopped & admitted he was done. I told him no worries and I was cool. I could tell he still felt bad because he kept apologizing for things. I told him he’s amazing and no one’s ever gotten me off like that! I could tell that calmed him down so we laid on his bed & kissed for a long time before I decided it was time to leave. He’s a VERY good kisser and I enjoyed his muscular hands rubbing all over my body & squeezing my ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I still see him twice a week during class. BTW: He’s still my ‘very own personal coach’. When class is over we stay & talk at a coffee shop close by.
We haven’t had sex again but we’ve become good friends. He knows I’m interested and willing to have sex with him again but he started taking medication that may affect heart rhythm.
He’s a great person struggling to get through things life throws at us and currently dealing with serious stress-related health issues created from his job. He eats out a lot and that’s not helping this health.
Last week I made us lunch. After class, I picked up the stuff for a Mediterranean salad and met at his place. He stayed in the kitchen and we talked. At one point, he stood behind me and put his arms around my waist while I sliced the olives & tomatoes. (That was hot and I could feel myself getting wet!). We ate under his gazebo in the back yard. I stayed and hung out for a few. He took me to his ‘man cave’ and showed me a vintage watch collection he was proud of. We went back outside, sat in a swing, held hands as we talked and kissed.
We’ve got each other’s info and text on occasion. I’m mostly curious about his Dr. visits. We’re planning to play a round of golf together soon.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My BF. We’re cool with things. His job requires him to work many days in a row so he’s happy I found a mature friend to hang-out with.
My BFF Beck. I showed her a few photos of him hitting a ball at the range. She agreed the guy is sexy as hell.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having amazing sex with a HOT guy and we are now good friends.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. Everything was GREAT!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think people can be good friends and have a healthy sexual relationship too.
We’ve only had sex once but now we are having great conversations each time we’re together. He’s become very open to me by sharing emotional stories about his late wife. I don’t know if we would have this type of friendship if we hadn’t had sex that day. He’s someone I can talk to about anything and I consider a BF. Having sex first kinda gets rid of the awkward tensions between people.
Now, I can’t wait to see him after class and hang out. He feels the same way. I also love cooking for him.
I’m excited he wants to play golf with me in the future.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m the first person he’s had sex with since his late wife. I felt honored and blushed when he told me that.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think more people should be open to casual sex. I think it makes healthy friendships and relationships. Sex shouldn’t be something society makes us ashamed of. It’s a natural desire and we shouldn’t be afraid to try new things.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy sharing experiences and reading other people’s stories.
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