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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Ganja farmer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Definitely interested in women but rarely follow through
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m a violin player and got asked to play with a reggae band for a big festival, which is a little out of my usual genre zone, but sounded really fun. I can’t mention the band because you may know of them. Rehearsal was in my friends studio and when I opened the door it was really warm and packed with people and instruments. I squeezed in close the the bass player, a very sexy black man with dreads down to his waist and joined in playing. After practice it broke down to a jam and he gave me some sweet smiles and knuckle taps congratulating on riffs that flowed so fluid and easy together. I knew there was a serious attraction, but being married, I fought it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We talked a bit backstage before the show, but went different ways afterwards. I added him on facebook and he confessed he’d been thinking about me a lot, and we met up next time he was in town. went out dancing, and he has amazing sensual rhythm on the dancefloor, ended up at my friends hotel room with a big group of poeple, and had to discreetely sneak out to my car.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed a bit in the front seat, I loved how big and full and sensual his lips were. we quickly looked for somewhere to get closer, and folded down my back seat where I have a camp mat since i was prepared to not drive home drunk. He started to kiss down my body and position himself between my legs while he pulled my pants off, getting ready to go down on me, when I told him I was still bleeding a bit, and I pulled him up on top of me instead. I felt the bulge of his cock through his jeans and had to explore with my hand. It was thick and hard and uncircumcized, which I find makes it easy to stroke, the skin gliding down to expose a wet tender penis head. He slipped it inside me, with a moan from me, his cock was definitely one of the larger I’ve encountered. Due to limited space he was mostly on top missionary style, but I was bucking and grinding from the bottom, lifting my hips off the ground and bracing my feet on the ceiling of the car, occasionally getting shy about pre dawn noise in the hotel parking lot, then giving in to the moment again. Since I was bleeding a bit still I I let him come deep inside me, maybe not wise but felt soooo good. I could tell he held off until I was pulsing around him so we came together. We laid there naked, and I was impressed by how sensual and tender he was for just knowing each other, caressing my hair and little kisses, until his friend called, sunrise was starting, and he was wondering if homie was still driving them home. Oops. He slowly found his things and kissed me a sweet goodbye. We’ve been talking a lot lately, and I think I’m going to see him again, feeling guilty but excited, can’t tell anyone, so thought this was a good place to release my horny thoughts….
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I really like him, hope I can do it again without complicating my life….
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? betrayal to husband, but it’s complicated…
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Hot sex, but feeling loved at same time by a stranger. exotic.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? fear of being caught.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m questioning my ability to be monogamous
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? MMMMMmmmmm
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish it wasn’t always shown so negatively, or that I’d been honest earlier with my partner to where it would be okay, but he doesn’t want an open relationship… at least not with men involved…
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome platform. I’ve thought about writting this kind of thing before.
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