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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Dunedin
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Hot wedding hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, cut and incredibly sexy. He was also Australian, so the accent in my small town really stood out and really turned me on.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had just ended a 5 year relationship and was at a wedding. Many of the people there still hadn’t heard the news and so when they did they said I had to meet the Australian, let’s call him Ryan. When I saw him, my jaw dropped to the floor, he was way too hot for me (my self-esteem was remarkably low at the time) but I hadn’t had sex in what seemed like forever (6 weeks) and was insanely horny. I spent the rest of the night flirting with him and making my intentions as clear as possible. Things got slightly tricky when trying to figure out where this would happen, but Ryan’s hosts seemed more than happy for me to go back to their place. My self esteem got a bit of a boost once I realised that I had my choice between Ryan and his host. I just let them play their little competition game back at the house just waiting for the right moment to pounce on the one I wanted.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The sex was hot. So hot. He had an incredible cock, long, thick and very hard considering the amount we had had to drink. He was on top with my legs in the air, fucking me so hard. He then asked if I was into anal, and I wasn’t, but I really wanted to try. He turned me over and we gave it an honest effort but it did work so well. We didn’t let that spoil the mood and kept on fucking until we both came. He was a great lover but distant after, and there was certainly no conversation. I didn’t mind as all I wanted was some sexual release and I certainly got what I came for. It ended the next morning when I quietly slipped out of bed and into my dress and back into my own bed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We added each other to Facebook and half-heartedly chatted a couple of times. I really had no desire for anything more than that one night, I was still too tender from the break-up. I was very pleased with the whole event and excitedly told every detail to my closest friends. I look back on it as a very fond memory and I hope he is continuing to please lots and lots of partners.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends. They were pleased as this was part of their plan for me to get over the break-up.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was so hot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was at the bride’s mother’s house and I had to spend a super awkward morning with her family waiting to be taken home.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I have had many hookups and have realised that not all of them were completely consensual and the ones that weren’t left me feeling very gross. This was the first one I ever had that was completely my choice and I really enjoyed it. It was empowering and pleasurable. Looking back now I can clearly see the difference my motivation makes and that is helpful to me now as my husband and I navigate an open relationship and group sex encounters.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex between consenting adults is a wonderful thing. It is a great way to explore one’s sexuality and learn from different partners. I don’t think we should limit ourself to one partner, but believe that we should allow ourselves to explore desires with many people in a way that is respectful, open and honest. I grew up in a very conservative home so to get to this point has taken me a long time with a great deal of reflection over the years. My home life reflects the thoughts of society though – casual sex is destructive and can only lead to disease and hell. I want this attitude to change. We are so fortunate as humans to be able to enjoy sex for pleasure, why aren’t we doing it all the time???
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is awesome! Love the work that you are doing and I will post many more of my adventures!
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