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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? United Kingdom
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Finance
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a shy nervous well stocked young man, perhaps a bit chubby but well built and muscular. I hooked him up on Grindr as he was staying at the same hotel I was staying. He looked quite handsome in the pictures and had a dejected look that made me think he needed company. I was happy to host him and have some fun with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I think I chatted him up on Grindr. It was in the morning and I was meant to go out for work. I sent him a picture of myself shaving half naked to bait him and he agreed to come see me quickly as I only had half hour
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The knock on the door was exciting – he was taller than me but he did not seem to mind. He told me he was from Texas. We immediately started to make out, touching and rubbing our bodies. He was very clean and smelt good, decent kisser with nice stubble. He was keen as I was and we were both hard quickly. I started to undress him and then turned him around to caress his back and rub against his ass. I got hold of his penis and that was a surprise in girth and length, for whcih I complimented him – he did not respond. I wanted to penetrate him but he was not interested. I led him to the bed determined to 69 – I don’t normally blow guys but his cock deserved it. I was about to suck him when unexpectedly he came and apologised. So I turned around and let him blow me. His eyes had a sparkle of lust and viciousness that surprised me: he decided to go for a handjob and when he came he purposefully let it go all over his face and stubble, something that I liked. We did not talk much, we went to clean ourselves in the bathroom, thanked each other for the good time and goodbye
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt satisfied but had little expectations of seeing him again. I would have preferred to do more but he was not 100% comfortable and he was too shy.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? None.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I am married and I should not chase after boys.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Finding in a normal, shy bloke from Texas a considerate amount of lust and vice
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We did not talk a lot
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Somewhat confirmed that I like the idea of taking good people on the road to perdition…
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is becoming the norm and although I can’t say I dislike it, I am concerned that society is not catching up with the change
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting
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