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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? Europe
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Married and cheating
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Several

Hotel Lobby

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 nights ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This is my steady man on the side. I usually go for young and handsome, but M is older than me and not really my type. Still, we’ve been hooking up regularly for more than 2 years now. He’s well build black guy, in a complicated relationship but not living with her. We cheat but he says he tells me the truth about everything, yeah right. We used to meet at least once a week at his apartment but since his 18yo daughter lives with him it’s a puzzle to find time at his house.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My husband was out of town. And M and me were supposed to meet at his apartment for wine and sex. Last minute his daughter stayed home from work and we had to find a different solution. He picked me up from home and we drove to this hotel nearby, where I like to drink in the lobby. We weren’t planning on getting a room, but just have a nice time having drinks on some sort of date. So we did. We had nice cocktails, good conversation and we’re getting really horny. Couldn’t really make out in the lobby as we are both cheating obviously. He went to the toilets and told me after they were so clean and spacious…

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He paid for all the drinks. We went downstairs to check out these toilets. No one was there! We went into the ladies room and he started kissing and sucking my nipples. Gets me so horny. Then I sucked his beautiful big dick. I was wearing very high heels, per his request. He then turned me around, pulled my skinny jeans down and fucked me. So deep and nice. All the while holding onto the tits. It was so good, I completely forgot about where we were. No one came in. And he came pretty fast. I didn’t come but was so turned on, made my way to his house the next day and had great sex with multiple orgasms and squirting then.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cleaned up. He went upstairs first and then he took me home. The next day we met again for more amazing sex. This had just been an appetizer.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told no one

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Good sex in a public space, unexpected!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Toilet was right next to us. I didn’t have an orgasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I’m willing to anything for this guy.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I will continue seeing him, the sex is too good

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!!!

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