What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Arts
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? With prefernece to women
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 39
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 9
The Hottest Girl in the Drama Club
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? R was a student a couple of years younger than me when I was at university. She was and still is absolutely gorgeous. Brown hair (she was blonde at the time), a beautiful body with a face to match. Basically, physically perfect. I had seen her before the previous year but had never spoken to her. As I began my third year I finally decided to join the drama group (for reasons other than her). I ended up making friends in it and she was one of them. One night on a fresher’s week night out I decided to ask her out while at a club. She said yes but seemed a bit reluctant. She aleady had a bit of a reputation within the club though I can’t really blame her. If I looked like her and had as many guys hitting on me as she had it would have made my head spin. I ended up walking her halfway home (my place was on the way) and we kissed before she stopped and said she had to go. We arranged when to go out.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We agreed on going out the next friday night. We met in the town centre and she wore a flattering top and tight thigh high skirt with knee high boots. It definately made me do a double take and feel very lucky. We had a few drinks at a bar which was packed with locals. I remember at one point one confident older guy tried his luck with her. Her response was to turn around and kiss me quite passionately. Awesome.
I can’t really remember how but we got the idea to go back and watch a movie at mine. It was Scott Pilgrim. We only watched the second half of it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once back at mine we started making out again on my bed. We started taking each others clothes off, I wasn’t pushin for anything, I try not to assume anything. I remember taking her bra off and revealing her frankly perfect breasts and she asked me if I had a condom. Extremely pleasantly surprised I said yeah.
And this is where the story falls a bit. If you recall an older story (learning how to give oral) I sometimes became intimidated when I was women who extremely beautiful and couldn’t always perform. It wasn’t as bad this time, we actually had sex for one thing, but I wasn’t as…well…hard as I wanted to be. We had sex in missionary with my constantly thinking I was disappointing her despite the fact she was moaning. Her moans started to pick up near the end but unfortunately by that time (about 30 minutes) I had to stop as I really couldn’t keep going. Afterwards we talked a bit and both agreed we weren’t really up for relationships but wouldn’t mind if this happened again. It did but that’s a whole other story. She left after and I spent the rest of the night being shocked I actually got this girl.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We remained and still are friends within the club and after graduation. I didn’t really want a relationship with anyone right at that time as I was basically wanting to shag as much as I could. At the end of the year we hooked up again but that’s a fucked up and different story. I’m still facebook friends with her and remained friends throughout our time at uni, even after the second time I’ll explain later.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? People in the society kind of knew so it was never a secret. Oh the woes of college students.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t regret sleeping with her, god no. I just regret my performance.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was an eye opening moment that I realised one of the most beautiful girls I’ve ever seen actually wanted to sleep with me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t perform as well as I know I could have.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It gave me more confidence, how could it not. I mean….damn.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nah, nothing relevant.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If more people were making love there’d be a lot less hate in the world.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great website for educating and reading real stories.
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