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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Finance
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Housemate Sex-Buddy

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall sexy French guy

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were talking about the dating scene, and how difficult it can be. Things started getting more personal, and he asked me about my sex toys, and how many times I can orgasm in one night with them.  We then went to our separate beds and started texting about it and the conversation then went to sex buddies.  About a month later, the texting started again, with him suggesting he could help me out if needed…

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I waited for the rest of my housemates to finally go to bed, while he and I texted each other about finally hooking up. When it was finally quiet, around 1:30 AM, I decided to go to his room. It was a cold winter’s night so I sat for a little while in front of his room heater. He then invited me into his bed. We spoke for a few minutes, and I think we were both smiling a lot. He started kissing my body, running his fingers up and down, and fingering me. This I enjoyed so much as this was the first time with someone new after my divorce (he doesn’t know I’m divorced). He flipped me over and started fingering my vagina from behind and I orgasmed. I think we were both not sure what to expect but the moment gripped me and I handed him a condom. He was so thoughtful and asked if I was sure. I just said: put it on! He thrust into me and it felt so good. I had to pull my legs around him to pull him in closer and deeper; he thruster deeper and faster in me and I didn’t want him to stop! I started pulling him using my pelvic muscles and he came. He was disappointed that he came so quickly but I was happy with him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After, we just laid for a little while, made small talk, while the feeling to my legs came back.  The next morning, we were alone in the lounge and we spoke about it, about what we enjoyed and what we didn’t. This was my first time with him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke to him.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was my 2nd lover (after a 10yr marriage) and it was good.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it’s not such a bad thing!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The 2nd time was better!

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