What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Central Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Kazakhstan
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Self-employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? around 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How I Had Sex With My Classmate
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Well, she was a beginner model at the time. She had pretty nice body and face. Her legs were very outstanding and 2 years before we met she participated at the national beauty contest and almost won it. We were 18 when we met. It was our 1st course in university and she was the first person I made a good connection with. Before we hooked up we were just classmates who liked chatting with each other. I liked her company because she wasn’t one of those stupid girls who like trash-talks. We’ve not been seeing each other outside of university so our conversations used to take place only during classes. In order to keep the girl’s anonymity I’ll call her Diane here.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After our 1st semester in university was over everyone started planning their holidays. So was I. Me and my another classmate were from the same town (we studied in the capital of our country) so we bought tickets on the same train and the same wagon in order to have some talks during the trip (it takes around 12 hours). The day before my classmate told me Diane wanted to go with us cause the train was going through her hometown. Since I didn’t really care about “me and her” stuff I agreed. In the train we all were just talking about how the semester was going, about other classmates, professors and other things 18 yo guys like to discuss. After a couple hours I suggested to have some sleep and since Diane had a place in another wagon we offered her to stay with us. My classmate told Diane to sleep on his couch-seat (yeah, in our country we have beds to sleep cause trips take up to 36 hours) and he went outside of the wagon room. After a couple minutes I realized that if he goes to his bed, Diane would sleep with me on mine. Then I started gesticulate to him like *dude, go sleep on your bed* and he did it. Diane laid with me and I was doing nothing at the first 5 minutes. After that, I started feeling an excited look on me. I turned my head towards Diane and we started kissing. Then she went lower and gave me a BJ but I couldn’t come cause I was worrying if other people in wagon could hear us. After she stopped I offered her a “payback” and she agreed. It was my first time I gave a girl oral sex. It was it. When the train was arriving at her hometown we just kissed and said goodbye.
Our holidays lasted around 3 weeks and I couldn’t stop thinking about what happened. We had some conversations on the web but didn’t talk about sex. Then I offered her to go with the same train which was going through her town and she said okay. We met again in the train. First 2 hours we were just talking about holidays. Then we started kissing again, she got so horny and I went inside her. We tried to be as quiet as possible but I think some girl noticed we were actually having sex. After arriving to the city we kissed again and she said “see ya at the university”.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Since it was an unpredictable experience for me, I couldn’t do my best but sex itself was very good. She had pretty good BJ skills for not so mature girl. As I said, it was my first time I licked girl’s vagina and I LIKE IT! When we were done she wanted to cuddle for a while and was okay with that. That was the end of our trip and then we met at the university.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the train adventure, I was really inspired. I wanted to have her regularly and we were banging each other for 2 months or so. But then she became cold to me. We stopped talking about sex and relationships. I tried to light her spark up again but Diane said she started seeing someone else so I gave up. Now, after 5 years I realize she was some sort of gold digger because I saw her with “golden boys”. On the 3rd course, she married some guy and got pregnant. Now I can say it was just a short fling but I liked it so much. We lost each other and don’t talk anymore.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Well, after the first train time I told that only to my 2 closest friends and they were like “MAAAAN, that’s awesome!”
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing was that it wasn’t planned, it just happened. And I think in that kind of cases you perform better and sex seems to be better than if you intentionally hook up a girl.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? There was nothing bad 😉
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, I gained a lot of confidence. I can’t say I’m a loser type of guys, but this experience made me more manly I think.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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