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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Purchaser
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hungover Mistake

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder (cringe), he clearly was just looking for a hook up. I wasn’t really into it but later that night I had a bit to drink and started messaging him again. We couldn’t meet up as we were on opposite sides of the city and both too intoxicated to get ourselves anywhere else. He said he would come over in the morning which I didn’t really believe, but at the time I agreed to. He called me at 8am the next morning saying he was on his way to my place. I was so hungover and not interested but he kept pushing so I said he could come. He was kind of cute. One pic he had a beard, which I’m into. When he came over he was way taller than I had expected, clean shaven. I was disappointed and immediately regretted my decision to invite him over.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He walked into my apartment and took his pants off immediately. No planning other than he told me he wanted me to do what I said I would the night before when I was drunk and horny. Now in the early morning with this stranger it was so unappealing. But I did it anyways.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed for like one second and he asked me to suck his dick. I obliged although I was so dehydrated due to being hungover, I can’t imagine it was any good. We went into my room where I continued to give him a blowjob and lick his asshole. I almost puked so many times and was pretty vocal about it. Although I really didn’t feel that into it, I was super wet. When he started fucking me it felt so good but he kept switching positions and continuously asked me to lick his ass, both of which were really turning me off. He also had no intention of pleasuring me in any way, that was clear. He flipped me over and with no warning shoved his rather large dick in my ass. I yelped for him to stop, repeatedly. But it took him a minute. I think he chose not to hear me. After what seemed like forever he got off of me and I jumped off my bed and ran to the bathroom. I’m down with anal when it’s with someone I trust and with plenty of lube and foreplay, but in this case it was so awful. I was bleeding and upset. I came out of the bathroom scolding him “You can’t just shove your dick in someone’s ass!”. I asked him to leave. He was upset and apologized profusely. I said I’d made a mistake in having him over. I was a little nervous he wouldn’t want to leave, or maybe get angry with me but my large Pitbull was by my side and gave me the confidence to put an end to it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was sad and remorseful immediately after. I’m struggling with wanting to stay single, and enjoy sex at the same time but am having a hard time with the casual sex aspect of it. I hope to never see this person again.
I feel very disgusted with him and with myself for letting it happen.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? I don’t know

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, and I won’t.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? It was unpleasant and thinking of it now the only thing that comes to mind is cringe worthy.
My ass hurts! I am also very aware I am trying to fill a void from a semi-recent bad break up, I know hooking up won’t help but I do it anyway and pretty much immediately regret it, and end up being more upset than I was before.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? When he left.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The unexpected anal.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has. This was definitely my worst hook up experience and I would like to keep it as a reminder next time I’m horny or lonely to avoid super casual, stranger sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have only started having casual sex in the last year, before that I was always in a committed relationship. I think if you are doing it for the right reasons it can be great! However, I don’t think I am doing it for the right reasons.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s fantastic. Casual sex is always seen as dirty, immoral and irresponsible. But it can be so much more that that. It’s so interesting to see why people do what they do and how they feel about it. How we look back on hook ups, from cringe-worthy to overly romanticized. Either way, our feelings and reactions to it are very intriguing.

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