What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Half British, half Romanian / Israeli / American
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sub, screamer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This guy and I had been chatting on Tinder since the weekend and had been arranging a time to meet during the week. Initially I was a bit hesitant as I’d been heartbroken earlier in the year, but I figured it was time to push through and give myself a bit of mindless fun. We arranged to meet on Halloween night at his hotel, but I’d only slept a few hours the night before and called it off. He was clearly disappointed but also very understanding and mature about it. Later I found out he was only 23 so I was pretty impressed with his conduct. His attitude made me quite a bit more trusting so I invited him over to mine the next night.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were texting all day and he was an absolute sweetheart. No pressure placed, just saying he wanted some female company and drinks as he works overseas a fair bit. I warmed up to him even more.
He came over around 8:30 after my work and the moment I saw him outside on my patio, I felt a visceral reaction in my lower abdomen. I said hello while pulling my arms over his shoulders and he greeted me with his broad shoulders wrapped firmly, but not too familiarly around me. Every part of my body was reacting to his touch – I wasn’t wearing much anyway with my little blue nightie.
I led him inside towards my room and we made a little small talk while setting up some drinks on my vanity. We both caught wide-eyed looks at each other, just drinking the other in for the first time. He was tall – taller than I expected. He had linebacker shoulders, with a very well muscled but lithe body, and dirty blondish hair with a sandy beard trailing his jawline. His eyes – hazel / green and haunting, never blinking from mine. There was a moment I walked close to him and the electricity pulsing between us was so strong. I was almost surprised we couldn’t see the air thicken from the tension. I think we could have continued from there without saying a word.
I settled on a little chair and him on my bed and I came to learn what a lovely chap he is, and some of the truly difficult hardships he’d gone through. I felt an instant kinship with him. I could feel myself starting to get a little drunker so I invited him to settle down next to me on the bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We stared deeply into each others’ eyes talking about who knows what. Only a few seconds later, he pulled my chin to his face and I got lost in his kiss. As soon as our mouths opened to each other, I knew I was done. Normally I take the undressing slowly, but this time I didn’t hesitate a moment to take his shirt off as he took care of his pants. I reached to turn the light off and watched the candlelight play against our bare skin.
The rest was a complete whirlwind. First, he went down on me, tongue flicking quickly but firmly, then without notice, went to move inside me (I asked for a condom but we took it off after like 5 minutes). He thrusted in me softly, building tempo then would tease me by barely letting his tip into my opening – grazing it really. And when I could take no more he thrust me HARD and I could no longer contain my screams. We kept at this, never breaking eye contact and his hands around my throat until he jumped outside me and I sucked him as he came. He went straight to licking me again, sucking and suddenly nibbling my clit hard. I jumped the first time from the sudden pain and pleasure, unable to control myself anymore. We quickly built up to our second round and he picked me up off the bed and fucked me into my carpet and I screamed, not able to take any more. We then 69’d. He pushed me onto the bed and fucked me from behind and I arched my back screaming as he pulled my hair and eventually told him “do whatever the fuck you want to me”. He said, “whatever I want?” and then proceeded to spit into my ass and lick it out. I was in fucking heaven and smirked, “oh, so this is what you want?” He pushed inside me suddenly and I could tell I couldn’t hold it for long being woefully unprepared. He was lovely and we only kept on a couple of minutes and went back to fucking with my legs in the air. We had sex four times in total through the night and once more in the morning. I got maybe an hour of broken sleep, and remember one of my favorite moments was when we came back from the bathroom and I fucked him in front of my windows which were wide open under the moonlight. I then collapsed on him in exhaustion as he put his finger deeeep in my ass and fucked me from beneath. I kept whispering in his ear “yeah… please…”, and he’d repeat to me “yeah?” fucking me harder and deeper until we were both covered in my juices from how wet he was making me. He came outside me and I sat on his face while he stared up at my moonlit tits and nibbled my clit again.
Eventually, I collapsed onto his chest and we slept completely entangled around each other, him stroking my hair and kissing my forehead constantly as I murmured random questions to him in my sleep and he soothed me back to oblivion.
In the morning I took a shower and got ready for work while I watched him sleep. I tried my best not to wake him but he woke with a start eventually and seeing me with my hair half done, set his alarmingly unblinking gaze back on me as he kept kissing me… so softly. I had my eyes closed, lost in the moment, but occasionally opened my eyes to his half open watching my lashes or my lips so intently.
We had sex again and he walked me to the bus stop, buying us coffee on the way when I found I didn’t have enough on my card to pay for it myself.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had left my phone at home so I didn’t know what to think all day. If he remembered or cared. I was also dead sore and my throat was hoarse from all the thrusting he did into my face.
We’ve been talking since and both have confirmed he’s a dom, I’m a sub. That it was a perfect encounter and want to experiment more. But I’m moving back to the states and he works overseas. He’s said repeatedly he’ll come to see me in the states on his next break, but I won’t make any judgments until the day comes if he goes through with it or not. Either way, I was blown away by our perfect chemistry, especially from a first encounter.
I hope we do see each other again. At the same time, I could be in trouble if I do.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate. She was pissed because she could hear us all night and had to work, but later we were fine and she said she was just shocked/impressed how we kept going for so long.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex, his gaze, the way he held me, how responsive we were verbally and physically, how attracted we were to each other.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He’s 23, I’m 28. We live and work in different continents and will probably never work in a real relationship unless he’s as radically brave with love as I am.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I feel that love can be born out of extremely intense sexual experiences – casual sex isn’t always about using and discarding each other. I also think intense sexual energy, when experienced correctly, can heal and change us to reach closer to our potential. Casual or relationship, it’s all just about who the people are inside who partake in it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m so glad I didn’t let past hurt get in the way of experiencing something incredible
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sexuality is equally owned by the feminine and masculine. We all need to acknowledge we all have rights to this transformational power in life to be enjoyed without guilt or repression.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Beautiful. Thank you for doing what you do.
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