What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Bay Area
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m a stay-at-home wife/mom of two. My husband and I met in high school and been married for 13 years. He’s also the only man I’ve ever had sex with. My husband has a great job and is an amazing person and the best father in the world. He’s my best friend and we generally do everything together. His job requires him to travel one week a month. I stay busy around the house running errands, cooking, cleaning and soccer mom taxi. I’m 5 feet tall and 105 lbs. I stay in shape by running and doing yoga.
My husband’s friend (Jason-Not real name) is 10 years older and works in construction as a welder. He’s got the typical bad boy appearance that I find attractive. He’s muscular, has sleeve tattoos, has a confident attitude, is a player with the women, currently single and has a southern accent that will make your heart melt. On occasion, he will get a job overseas and will be gone months at a time.
Jason’s a regular at our house. We have him over for dinner and to watch football. Jason and I end up talking because we have common interests and have great conversation. He’s always been flirty with me but it’s very innocent and he calls me a hot soccer mom. If I know he’s coming around, I like to wear tight active wear. I can tell he enjoys the view and what woman wouldn’t like the attention.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One Monday morning, I dropped the kids off at school and then my husband at the airport for a trip to Colorado. As my husband was getting out of the car he says, “Oh honey, I forgot to tell you. Jason’s leaving again and he’s coming over today to store some stuff in our garage while he’s gone. I told him you’ll be home and he’s going to call before he comes over.” I played like I was aggravated for the short notice but I was actually excited and wanted a little alone time and more importantly a little ‘flirting time’ with Jason.
Jason sent me a text and I told him to come on over. I told him I would cook him lunch. He was leaving soon. Feeling naughty, I changed into a sports bra and yoga shorts just to tease.
Jason arrived wearing gym shorts and a tight tank top. He looked totally buff and hot! I wanted to tease him but my plan backfired since he wore something to tease ME! We took turns flirting while unloaded his truck. I could feel his eyes burning through my shorts when I bent over.
With my flirty voice, I asked how long it had been since his last hook-up. He replied, “Way too long and I’m leaving Friday for two months.” I don’t know what made me say it but I blurted, “Maybe I can help.” His eyes perked up with a shocked look. He winked and said, “How?” I said, “Would you like a ‘going away blow-job?” I blushed and he quickly said, “That sounds very nice but remember you’re a married woman.” Thinking of something to say I replied, “I know but it would just be oral. It’s not like we would be having sex.” He took his muscular hand and placed it on my firm ass and squeezed. That move sent chills down my spine and I could feel my panties getting wet! He playfully replied, “Thanks for the offer but I think you are just teasing and would never go through with it.” I was shocked at his dare so I took his other hand and we went inside.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Being in the moment, I got on my knees and pulled down his shorts. This was the first penis I had ever seen that was not my husband’s. He was neat and trimmed. If I had to compare, his penis was the same length as my husband’s but much thicker. I’ll also mention he has a ripped six pack. I began sucking him and within a few moments, I noticed he was getting close to climax so I paused for a moment to let him calm down. I noticed a look of disappointment as he must have thought I was done. I stood up and took off my shorts and sports bra. This was the first time any man other than my husband had seen me totally nude. I loved watching his grin as his eyes were fixed on my body. Other than curiosity and lust, I can’t explain what made me do this but I straddled him. No words were spoken and he didn’t object as his penis began to enter me. Instantly, I knew I wasn’t having sex with my husband because his warm and raw penis was stretching me open more than usual. The feeling was pleasuring, very satisfying and amazing. He held my waist as I began to ride him. I started out slow then fast. He was patient and allowed me do everything. It didn’t take me long to have an orgasm. He squeezed my tits as I climaxed (which made the experience more intense). When I finished, my heart was racing and I laid my head on his rock hard chest. He had a look of shock when I took a deep breath and said, “WOW, It’s your turn.”
He grabbed my butt and I wrapped my arms around him as he stood up. He held me in the air while we had sex. He was in full control as we did many positions. I could tell he was getting close and I asked him to finished inside me. He did and it was a lot.
We got dressed and as promised, I cooked him lunch. We ate, flirted and had sex again. This time it was for a longer period of time.
For the remainder of the week, I went to his place after dropping the kids off at school and we had sex.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He was gone for 8 weeks and scheduled to arrive in the middle of the week. I offered to pick him up at the airport so he wouldn’t have to call an Uber. I was wearing a sun dress and heels and the look of pure lust he gave me said it all. We rushed back to his place and I could tell he had been saving up for me. We got inside and he was ready to pounce. He filled me up numerous times. The experience was off the scale! We had sex four times until he was fully spent. During the process, I had countless orgasms.
I continue hooking up with Jason at his place once or twice a week. We’ve both talked about the arrangement and are both in agreement to discretely continue having a sex only relationship. Things have remained the same between my husband and I. I’m confident he’s not aware of what’s going on and I hope he never does. For me, I have always been attracted to the ‘bad boy’ type. It’s nice having a good friend I can live out this experience with no strings attached.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with his best friend has provided me with a different kind of pleasure because things are purely based on a physical attraction. He only wants to enjoy my body and I only want to enjoy his. It’s hard to explain unless you’ve had the experience. Since this is an anonymous board, I’ll admit, women DO lust and become aroused looking at sexy men in the same manner men lust after attractive women. In my situation, I acted on my lust but it was with a person I knew and was comfortable being with and I have no regrets. It’s exciting to have amazing sex, without my husband’s knowledge, with a hot man that only wants to enjoy your body and with no fear of expecting a relationship in return.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating on my husband with his best friend.
I have always had a great relationship with my husband and still do. Even after 15 years of having sex with the same man, I’m still attracted to him and the sex is still GREAT! He’s truly a wonderful lover in bed because we connect and compliment each other. Please understand, I didn’t stray due to having a dull relationship or things being stale in the bedroom. I strayed due to curiosity and desire to try a new experience.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I still love my husband and I would never want a divorce but now I am open to having casual sex with a guy I’m attracted to.
Next, I would like to try a random hook-up with someone I just met.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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