What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? California
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? none
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Completely heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
I Fucked My Best Friend’s Boyfriend.
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, about 5’11 with blonde hair, and a cuddly body type. I never thought of hooking up with him but I could always tell he was into me. It happened at his house.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a party, which led to an afterparty at his house where things were settling down and people were leaving. It was around 2 am but I was too drunk to drive home, so I agreed to crash there. I fell asleep in his bed and he came in about 20 minutes later and I woke up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex for about 10 minutes and even though I only remember parts of it, his dick was a good size and I had a good time. We didn’t talk much during it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we both fell asleep in his bed. The next day I woke up naked and confused in his bed while the events of the night before came back to me. Histepbrotherer and friend had also slept at his house so they knew what happened as well.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? He had just begun talking to my friend, and they had only hooked up once before. I wasn’t that close with Abby but as time went on we became best best friends. Tyler and I agreed to keep this a secret and we didn’t speak about it for another whole year. Tyler and Abby started dating about 5 months ago. But, she just found out, I’m assuming by the stepbrother, and is hurt and furious at both of us. My friendship with Abby is probably completely over.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Because he had just started hooking up with my friend Abby and he’s not even that attractive, wasn’t worth it.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The repurcussions
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, it made me feel like a slut.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I am fucked. My best friend is most likely never going to speak to me ever again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Apart from this experience, casual sex is awesome. A lot of times after a casual sex encounter things can get complicated, but in the situations where nothing gets more complicated than it should be, it’s fun and harmless! Sex is something we as humans all need to stay sane in life, there should be no shame in feeding your body what it needs.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This has actually helped me vent my story, especially considering my best friend just found out tonight that we fucked and I am feeling terribly and so regretful about what happened.
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