What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Midwest US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Office Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I prefer queer since gender doesn’t come into it – I just like some people and they happen to be from an array of gender identities
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
I Fucked My Married Friends
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2-3 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known my lady friend since we were kids and met her husband a few years ago when they were still dating.
I really like them both and I’ve been spending more time with them, often crashing at their place rather than going home.
I’ve been trying to be more honest about my sexuality so I casually came out as queer to them the week before. It wasn’t a big deal, like telling them I have freckles or something obvious and we didn’t even feel like we needed to discuss it.
They’re both quite attractive and charming and I admire them very much. They are two of my favorite people!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Not long after coming out to them, her husband kept suggesting she and I sit together, cuddle, etc and I was getting some serious vibes from them… But I thought I was just horny and went to bed. A few mins later he knocked on the door and said that his wife was too nervous to ask but, she wanted to see if I would I like to join them. So, I did.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My lady friend and I kissed and I felt clumsy and huge (I’m used to being smaller than my partners). We shyly took more and more clothes off until we were all naked. They called me a goddess and I felt good but also embarrassed.
I ate her out and she fingered me while her husband watched and eventually I started blowing him while getting fingered. We ended with him fucking her while I played around her ear and neck and tits.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to leave early the next day before they woke up. I felt really good but it turned increasingly shitty over the next few days when I could tell my lady friend was feeling jealous.
Knowing something was wrong between us opened me up to self-recriminations, for those few bad days… I felt self-conscious about my relative inexperience, my size, the difficulty I have in reaching orgasm. Plus, in addition to being filled with self-doubt, there is something deeply lonely about being the interloper with two people who’ve been intimate for years. They got to cuddle and process the experience together, but I went back to my empty bed and I sort of resented feeling left out.
My friend and I talked about how we felt later and reaffirmed how much we respect and care for each other. Then we established some boundaries to help us both with insecurities. We’re in a good place now and have hooked up a few more times.
I have not felt comfortable approaching her husband to hear how he feels, though. I feel like doing so would hurt my lady friend, so I leave any emotional intimacy with him to her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My fuck buddy was a little jealous since he was not a part of my first threesome but also hilariously proud like he was my sex mentor.
Two friends who don’t know my married friends were surprised, intrigued and happy for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling very desirable
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling like things got weird between me and my friends.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was my first queer experience and first threesome so it did confirm my understanding of my sexuality. It also made me feel more confident about my body but less confident about my skill.
It also made me wonder about the possibility of casually fucking other friends…
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I let them know that I’m submissive and they definitely liked taking the reins of the scenario. However, they were pretty vanilla, so I didn’t get the same satisfaction I get with my dom.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was raised very religiously, so I had to put aside a lot of unhealthy thoughts about sexuality before I could engage in casual sex. Personally, I love it and have never regretted turning my back on that old mindset.
I would like it to be more acceptable for women to openly own that they have and enjoy casual sex and kink.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Just heard about it – looking forward to reading a few stories!
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