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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Bay Area
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Director of Executive Dining
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Well over 100
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

I Got Paid for Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? When I was a sophomore in college

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Handsome and charming older gentleman who was a regular in the hotel restaurant where I was a server. I wanted him to ask me out and kept hinting but he didn’t.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a few months of flirting with no results I went in back and took my bra off and held a serving tray in front of me. I walked up to him and flashed my breast at him. He left me a note with his room number and told me to come up after my shift.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He asked to take my clothes off; I did and he placed my clothes and shoes in the room safe and locked it. I was certainly not expecting that but it seemed exciting. He inspected me and criticized things like my weight and posture then he sat down and told me to kneel. I thought he wanted me to suck on him but instead he rebuked me for being so stupid. He told me to lay across his knees and he spanked me hard with his belt until I cried.

He told me to stand facing the wall and he took two polaroid pictures of me naked. Then he told me to get in the bed. He took his clothes off and we had sex. After I took a quick shower. When I got out he had placed my clothes on the table and told me my money was on top of the clothes. There was $100; I really needed the money so I took it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He told me to come to his room again. This time the money was already on the table. Over the next few months I had sex dozens of times. He paid me $100 for regular sex, $50 for quick blowjobs, $200 for anal and $500 for spending the whole night. I didn’t feel like I was a prostitute because I wanted to have sex with him anyway until he told me he gave my phone number to a friend of his.

He asked me as a favor if I would have sex with his friend. The friend called a couple days later and I took the bus from my dorm to downtown. I was really scared and nervous while riding the bus but especially when I walked into the hotel lobby. I’d never been in that hotel and couldn’t find the elevators. I did it because I thought of it as an adventure, just something I wanted to try once. He gave me the money and I had sex with him and afterward he gave me even more money as a tip.

By the end of my sophomore year, I had several older men who paid me for sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my dorm room mate but not about being paid. I didn’t tell her anything about the other men.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I was way too innocent and it could have been horrible. I could have lost my job. Then there were the two naked pictures he took of me. They were both from the back and my face didn’t show. He kept one and gave me the other to remind me not to do anything like that again.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was really great and so was the money.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Being scared of what might happen. Not being able to leave because I was totally naked and both my clothing and shoes were locked up.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I found I could easily have sex with guys I wasn’t attracted to. I learned to take charge of my sexual situations.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was a call girl for three years until I graduated from college. I mostly quit but I kept seeing two of the men and there was also a married couple who paid me for threesomes.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Sounds interesting

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!