What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Texas
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Management
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
I Had Sex With My Fiancée’s Best Friend.
How long ago did this hookup happen? July 20, 2019
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My fiancé is an awesome man, Japanese man. His best friend is a ginger white man. I’ve been knowing his best friend as long as my fiancée (7 years) my fiancée used to live with him, that’s how we initially met.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At a hotel, he came on to me after a few drinks, we were having a good time at the bar, we initially met up to pick something up for my fiancé, I wanted to go drink since I was kid free for a few hours. He wanted to join, not thinking much I agreed. Second time around we met at his hotel again, nothing happened once again, the third time it was at his house and I finally gave in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We have met up before a few times, the second time around we both felt weird about it, we started to feel bad since we are both in committed relationships. I went in for a kiss and he rejected me, I did the same to him. His thing was mainly that he thinks kissing is too personal and he didn’t want to do that. We finally did kiss closer to the ending of our night, it was just weird. The third time around we had a few drinks went to his house this time, and we both naturally started kissing we both knew we are now okay with this idea.. I definitely like how dominant he is and how gentle he can be at the same time, his kisses are so sweet. His dick was rock hard by the time I got down to it, I started to suck his dick, he is well endowed… my god, amazing sex we had such a good time, he ate me out, we went on for at least 2 hours with foreplay of course! It was great, I don’t regret it. I feel bad then I don’t, he feels the same. We both agreed that this was definitely something we went out our way to do, we are actively finding a connection.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great. I don’t expect him to text me, we will see each other again with our spouses. It’s not awkward.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Everything, we are very much alike and we have always gone out and drink as friends. No awkwardness.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing, we are great in bed.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, i always enjoyed sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I like gingers. Bahaha.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is not bad.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s awesome. I can air this out without judgement.
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