What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Britain
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

I Had Sex with My Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a long term friend, a good looking guy, who I knew very well for a long time. I’d never really thought about them sexually before, but I liked him a lot as a friend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at my house taking cocaine, chatting and watching porn. He mentioned that he was curious about same sex fun. He was shy and worried about my reaction. I enthusiastically agreed mentioned that I had some same sex experience fooling around and started it off.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He did oral on me for a bit and I returned the favour. Then I received anal, which was great, but he didn’t last very long. He told me he was a bit turned off after he had come, but we soon got back into it. A bit of mutual masturbation and I gave him a long blowjob, which I enjoyed. He wanted me to give him anal, but I couldn’t stay hard enough to really do it. It was mostly the cocaine, but also I’m more of a receiver.

He was an OK lover, his penis was great, really nice size and shape. I wish he’d have taken his time a bit more though and I’d have liked him to at least get me close from oral. His technique wasn’t so good.

It ended in the early hours when he went home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt fine about it, as it was just casual sex. He wanted to emphasize that nothing big would change between us, which was perfect for me too. I hoped we would remain friends and we have. I still like this guy a lot now, even though we don’t see each other that often. I wouldn’t do that now as he’s married and I’m friends with his wife. If we were both single though I’d definitely have sex with him again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He gave me so really good anal for a while, I liked sucking his penis. It was a fun experience.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Couldn’t give him exactly what he wanted. He was a bit colder than me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I think that same sex hookups between male friends might happen more than we thing, but I don’t know. It reinforced how much I enjoy same sex fun, even though I don’t do it that often, especially anymore.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Not using protection was unwise.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Causal sex can be fun, but people need to be careful not to get hurt.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good idea.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!