by T.A.M.


Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Michigan
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
What best describes your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

I Hooked Up With My Student Teacher

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short Fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 28 years old, tall with dark hair; very handsome. When I was a senior in high school, he was my student teacher. We both had feelings for each other, but for obvious reasons nothing could happen at the time (he also had a girlfriend). There was a lot of sexual attraction/tension between us.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I graduated high school in 2011 and we reconnected this past fall, during my junior year of college.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had begun hanging out casually and over my winter break (that lasted a month) from college, we became inseparable while living in the same town. Previous to the first time we had sex, we had slept in the same bed a few times and I had performed oral sex on him. One night, he invited me over to hang out with his brother and some friends. We began drinking at his apartment and eventually went out to a bar. We were both pretty drunk and feeling horny. We decided to walk home from the bar and get in bed. After a while of talking, we began to go at it. It was extremely passionate! There was heavy kissing, rubbing, grinding, moaning, and I had 3 orgasms. We were very caring towards one another during the experience. We performed oral sex on one another and did sexual positions such as: spooning, both of us on top, and we even made up our own that we named (much too intricate to describe). It was admittedly the best sex both of us had ever had. It ended with naked cuddling and falling asleep.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? The desire to have sex with one another had been building up for years and we were finally able to release it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning  I woke up in a blood spot (on his sheets) because I hadn’t had sex in months and my vagina took a beating the night before. He didn’t make a big deal about it and was actually very caring. I hoped that he and I would end up dating. We did continue to see each other over that month, but then he ended things. I later found out that he had lied to me about a lot of things and now I fight the desire to talk to him out of respect for myself. I have a lot of anger towards him still and try to ignore my sexual cravings for him that still exist.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told most of my friends. They thought it was awesome that I had finally lived out my fantasy.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret this (or any) sexual experiences with him. They were amazing and exciting and the best we both had experienced. I do, however, regret giving him my heart, because it has been months and I am still struggling to get over him completely. He now has a girlfriend.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup was that it showed me how much I can enjoy sex. Before, it was just an activity. This man showed me how much of a wonderful experience it can be. Next time I meet a guy that I really like, I want to wait to have sex so it will last. My thoughts about casual sex with random people (as long as it’s safe), however, is to go for it!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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