by Rachael Z

Gender: CIS Female
Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: Biracial: black/white
Location: The midwest
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: State bureau clerk
Religious affiliation: Casual Christianity
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

mailI Hope This Isn’t Too Forward, But…

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was not at all my type. Not much taller than me, blonde, kind of preppy. I had never met him before that night. I was visiting friends on the east coast,  we went to a bar. This guy was a regular at the bar, my friends were cool with him. There was some flirting and taking shots together throughout the night.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At one point in the night he leaned over and said “I hope this isn’t too forward, but I’d really like to eat your pussy.” It was sort of a surprise because the flirting had been mild but I do love this sort of respectful boldness. I felt like if I had declined we would have gone on partying but instead I said “That could be fun”.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Per his request he performed oral sex on me, for a long time. He was good at it. It felt great to be hooking up with someone who enjoyed and cared if I got off. Prior to this hook up I had sort of a frustrating string of hookups with men barely interested in my pleasure. We did not have intercourse because he had no condoms.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? This only came up when he asked if he could penetrate me. I asked if he had condoms, which is when he realized he didn’t. He didn’t press it though and that was also pretty awesome (I know it should be the norm but it just isn’t).

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? When in Rome…? I was having a good time with him and when the conversation turned sexual in nature he approached it in exactly the way I like. I am single, he was single and it seemed like it would be fun.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were drinking at a bar, yes. Lots of whiskey shots and I think he had some beers.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? So he fell asleep and I stayed awake for a while. It was a gorgeous night and his apartment had a gorgeous view. Eventually I crawled into bed and fell asleep. In the morning I realized that I didn’t remember his name so while he was in the shower I looked for piece of mail. He had to work and I had some time to kill before catching a train so he walked me to a breakfast spot and kissed me goodbye a couple times.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a couple friends about it. We had a good laugh about me not recalling his name and searching for mail (which I did find).

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, absolutely.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope. It was a great time.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the straightforward and fun nature…and also he was very skilled and happy to be giving oral. The worst thing that happened was kind of funny in that he sneezed in his sleep and kind of right in my face. I got up and washed my face. He doesn’t know it even happened.

This was my first true one-nighter in that I have never talked to him again. So its nice to know I am emotionally capable of that.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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