What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Nanny
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
I Just Really Needed To Get Some
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a guy off tinder. I didn’t really think he was that attractive not sure why I swiped right. I guess one picture was kinda cute but when he sent me more pictures, I realized he was hairier than I would’ve preferred but also he had a fabulous penis so I let it go. He was straight to the point, which is what I wanted. I had downloaded tinder purely for a quick one-night stand. I was really horny and just stopped seeing a guy (casually). His first message was asking if I had found my good time yet (in reference to my profile bio). And I said not yet and he said well maybe you just did.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In our first conversation, he turned the conversation to send pics. I said I wasn’t into pics and he spent some time convincing me that I wanted to see what he had going on which actually really turned me on so I gave him my number so he could send a pic. I told him I wasn’t going to send anything and he didn’t push me to. A few days later he texted me pretty late at night and it was pretty clear he wanted to sext. I had never done it before and had no intention of changing that but then at some point, I decided to throw caution to the wind. I got him to add me on snap chat so he wouldn’t have saved pics and made sure I didn’t show anything that makes it obvious it was me (tattoos, face, too much of my room). I actually enjoyed it a lot more than I expected to but then he sent a picture of his cum on his stomach and just stopped responding which pissed me off. That was on Tuesday and we had mentioned hanging out the Friday night coming up. I didn’t hear from him again until about 9 pm on Friday. I had pretty much accepted that it wasn’t going to happen but then he messaged. I hadn’t showered or shaved or anything and it was already kinda late, I almost said no but God I needed sex so I told him I’d be at his about 10:30 and I jumped in the shower.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Our conversations had not strayed from sex so I was sure this was just a one-night stand and that made me feel like I didn’t need to be nervous. If it turned out to be awkward, who cares, I never have to see him again. I got to his house and when he opened the door, I realized he was even less attractive than I thought (always the way online and he probably thought the same thing). But I was on a mission so I went in.
His room was right next to the door, I went straight in, turned around and kissed him (pretty full on). He was surprised and said, “you don’t waste any time.” I laughed and took off my coat and bag then pulled him on to the bed with me. We only made out for a minute before clothes started coming off! He was rubbing me through my underwear and then I went down on him. I love giving head! When I came back up and kissed him, his hands went straight back to my underwear and he moaned and said omg you just got so wet from that. I quickly took my underwear off and he started really fingering me and rubbing my changed up-tempo and a few times stopped to finger me a bit more. Usually, I don’t like being fingered but this felt pretty good! I pulled him on top of me and helped guide his dick inside me. He had said missionary was his favorite position and I can see why; he was good at it. I had been really horny lately and wanted it hard but he teased me, going slow and telling me to stop when I was trying to speed him up, which just made it feel so much better! I’ve never cum with a guy, only a vibrator, but this was the closest I’d ever been. He rolled off me and said we might have to take a break. It turned out that he had cum twice and I hadn’t realized We lay there and he told me usually he just cums once and falls asleep but I have “a really good pelvic floor” and a “magic vagina” because he stayed hard and kept going! I wasn’t planning to stay the night so I asked if the fact that he had cum twice meant he was ready to go to sleep now? He said surprisingly not and he was keen to do it again. He just needed a minute to recharge. We small talked a little and I could hear that he was getting tired. I made a joke about him falling asleep and he said well if I do, just wake me up! In fact, if you wanted to wake me up with a blow job, I give consent now. I laughed and said I would definitely be waking him if he fell asleep. He went to sleep and I decided to see if I could have a quick nap too but I couldn’t. I got up and went to the bathroom and then when I came back I pulled the covers off and started sucking his dick. I don’t really like the feeling of a soft dick but there was something about feeling him get hard in my mouth and hearing him moan as he woke that was really hot. Definitely a trick I’ll be trying again. Once he was hard I climbed on top of and slid him inside. Usually, I like being on top but we were a bit out of sync and he had mentioned it wasn’t his favorite so after a bit he pulled me to the side and we were back in missionary. This time he was a bit rougher which I really like! He was going pretty hard and I grabbed his hand and put it on my neck. I had mentioned I wanted to try choking. He didn’t do it for as long as I would’ve liked but the pressure was perfect, not too hard. He then got two good handfuls of hair to pull and I really like that too! I could tell he was getting close and it was feeling amazing for me too! We were both saying how good it felt. Then he pulled out and came on my tummy! We lay there for a bit both pretty stoked I think. We had a bit more small talk, then when it seemed like he was gonna fall asleep again, I got up and said I had a lot of fun but I was gonna go home. He seemed pretty surprised and maybe a little hurt but I don’t know if i imagined that. I didn’t think about it at the time. It was when I was walking to the train station that I realized and felt a little bad. We didn’t mention seeing each other again, just said bye and he told me to text him when I was home safe. When I got home I sent a text “just got home, you were right, definitely worth the trek! 😉 x” and he sent back a big smiley face and that was the last time we spoke!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was really happy and it was probably the best sex I’ve had. I didn’t really plan to see him again but if he ever messages, I would consider heading over again. Definitely wouldn’t be interested in anything more than sex though. I felt a little bad that we didn’t use a condom but honestly sex really does feel better without one so I don’t feel too bad.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? 3 friends. I was texting my best friend when I was on my way to his house and I told her what I was doing. She was chill about it, happy I guess. We then chatted about it the next day and she was telling me about the last guy she slept with and her ex-boyfriend drama and said I was definitely doing it right.
I messaged another friend about it and mentioned that we pretty much hadn’t had an actual conversation just sex and that it was really good. Her first comment was “that is so hot. But so fucked up.” She was drunk and completely spun what I said into a negative thing. She started going on about how she loves me and she hopes I know I’m not without love, she’s sure i”m going to meet my person one day, he’s out there somewhere etc etc. It pissed me off because she knows I’m not that keen on relationships and I prefer casual sex. She turned something I was happy about, into a negative thing and made me feel like I should feel bad about myself and what had happened. My other friend’s response was “yassss girl! Getting what you want, so good!” And that was a much more appropriate response.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex. It was just really really good. Also, we were talking really openly when we were messaging, saying what we liked and wanted to try. That was really hot and very cool. Not something I’ve done much off, usually it all guesswork and a little awkward to begin with.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My friend’s negative reaction. When I clicked “a little bit” for “did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup,” I meant hurt by her, not the guy. We are quite close and have had a lot of conversations about sex. She has had one night stands and I’ve always been excited and supportive (I think). And she has always been cool about me hooking up in the past. Her reaction just felt really judgy. Like she thinks I must have been just doing it to make myself feel better about not having a boyfriend or something, not because I enjoy sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The way we talked openly before the hookup and then the sex itself being so good has made me feel more confident in myself. Definitely more likely to do something like that again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great. I think it is becoming more accepted but there’s definitely still a lot of judgment about it, especially for girls. I hope that changes. I understand that casual sex isn’t for everyone and for some it is a negative experience, not a positive but there’s no need to project that on to others. Live and let live.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool.
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